Homework: how to teach a child to do homework independently. Is it possible to do lessons for money or gifts

Our expert - clinical psychologist, art therapist Tatyana Chalik.

The environment in which the child studies at home is significantly different from the school. You can get up and move around at any time, mom doesn’t put twos, no one punishes for peeping into a textbook. This gives rise to an atmosphere of freedom, which, on the one hand, develops an interest in knowledge, and on the other hand, is fraught with irresponsibility.

How to make the time of work on the lessons fruitful?

In elementary school

1. The child should know that every day, after returning home, after a short rest (an hour and a half), he will sit down for lessons. By this time, he will already have time to take a break from schoolwork, but he will not yet get tired and not overexcited from entertainment and games. If the child is busy with some other important things - he goes to a music school or to draw, for example, you can sit down to prepare lessons later. But in any case, you can not postpone it for the evening. It is best for children who study on the second shift to do their homework in the morning.

Adapting a first grader to school can take six months. All this time, parents need to help the kids stick to the new regimen.

2. For the successful completion of homework, a clear rhythm of work is necessary. For example, after 25 minutes of class, a junior high school student should take a break for 5-10 minutes.

3. By the second grade, the child should learn to manage his time. Parents need only respond to the call for help. Undertake to help when the child himself asks for it, otherwise he will assume that his mother will complete everything for him.

4. Clearly prioritize: the main thing now is study. Do not distract the child while doing the lessons. You can tidy up the room, take out the trash in the evening.

Middle and high school

Middle school students should already be able to plan time, remember how much they were given at home and by what date. But . Why?

The child digs with lessons for a long time, is often distracted.

Maybe he does not "pull" the volume of the load? Now, even in a “regular” school, they give a lot of homework, so you shouldn’t load your child with additional classes. Often, under the pretext of “necessary,” parents take their child to chess, drawing, and foreign language courses. Although parents need it, the child does not rest there, but continues to carry out the duty, as at school. Rest should be what the child likes, not the parents.

You should not limit the time of homework, for example, to warn that in half an hour you will pick up your notebook. Teach your child to set realistic, achievable goals.

Maybe the child is trying to get your attention in this way?

Do not constantly scold him, this will only reinforce bad behavior, especially if you pay attention to the child only when he is at fault. Praise him more often, and your student will be more willing to do everything himself.

Maybe he is deliberately not in a hurry to do his homework, because he knows that, in the end, you will sit next to him?

Never do his job, but only explain how to do it, and then if he asks you to do it himself. To explain does not mean to decide, it is only to show the direction of thinking or to clarify the task.

The child does homework quickly, but carelessly.

Find out the reason. Most often go for a walk. In this situation, it will take some time to methodically check the quality of homework. Just do not orient the child to grades, otherwise he may decide that they are important, and not the knowledge itself.

It is not necessary to punish the child for poor performance of work, it is better to ask why this happened.

The child must understand that only after the lessons are over, he can do what he likes.

The child is afraid to get a "deuce".

It is more important to instill a love for knowledge, and not for good grades. And you need to say and do everything so that the child understands that he will be loved, despite either bad grades or complaints from teachers. Then he will try, because no one wants to upset the one who loves you.

In just a year, a child turns from a tiny silly child into a fully developed person with all the basic skills necessary for life.

• Per month he tries to hold his head, it works especially well when lying on his tummy.
• At two he manages to briefly tear his head and chest off the surface on which he lies, again, on his tummy.
• At three o'clok months, some manage to roll over on their side on their own.
• At four- almost all children easily change the position of the body, turning from back to side.
• Closer to a year Most babies walk well and even run.

The peak of development of children up to a year falls on about 5-6 months of life. At this time, they begin to understand how to control their body and are almost completely ready for new “big” skills, which means that parents will have a completely logical question: how to teach a child to sit? Here we will try to answer it.

From this article you will learn:

Many of us can not wait to sit down our baby, and there is a reasonable explanation for this. All that the baby sees, lying in his crib or cradle, is the ceiling, the edge of the room, parents looking in to him, as well as tree branches, clouds and the sky on a walk.

Only a change in the position of his body helps to add variety to the life of a small person. The first thing they practice with children after “rolling” on their hands is sitting.

There is an opinion that it is not worth starting to seat girls until the moment they turn 6 months. At this time, there is a risk of provoking the development of uterine bending in them. With boys, things are different, already on 5 months development, they can be gradually prepared for full-fledged sitting.

To determine the readiness of the child to master the science of sitting is very simple.

The round back and falling on its side at the first attempt to seat him indicate that the baby is not ready to change the position of the body from horizontal to vertical, but if he lies confidently and for a long time on his stomach, holding his head, rises on the handles, tearing him away from the hard surface of the chest, keeps the emphasis on the elbows and knows how to roll over from the back to the side and vice versa, then we can confidently say that not without help, but the baby is ready to learn to sit.

We act smoothly, without rushing

Parents often train their children to sit on their own by covering them with pillows on all sides, but often this ends up with them simply falling on their side.

As mentioned above - this is evidence that the child is not ready to sit. In addition, such early experimental attempts to plant a baby can end in failure, namely, the occurrence of problems with the spine, including scoliosis, and therefore it is better to abandon them immediately.

In order for the learning process to go smoothly, you should not rush, it is better to start it from the basics. First of all, prepare your baby for sitting physically, that is, spend frequent short-term exercises with him, which will help strengthen the muscles of the back, neck and abdomen.

For these purposes, a whole range of special exercises has been developed that the baby can successfully perform with his parents.

But, before proceeding with the exercises themselves, it is worthwhile to properly “warm up” the baby with a simple massage and gymnastics that you do daily.

Stroke the arms, legs, tummy and back - activate the circulatory system, spread the arms to the sides and up, cross them on the chest, gently bend-straighten the legs at the knees, spread the bent legs to the side and put them together, according to the principle of opening a book, imitate walking , resting your feet on a hard surface, touch the pile of the cage with your bent knees and do the “bike” exercise.

In general, spend standard classes with your child, which take no more than 5-10 minutes in time.

After the body has prepared to "work", you can begin to perform exercises that train the desired muscles.

Cooking and teaching the child to sit

Exercises on how to teach a child to sit are familiar to many. These include:

Pull-ups

The child is laid on the back. Mom stretches out her hands to him, and the baby grabs her thumbs. In this position, the baby will certainly try to pull himself closer to his mother. Here it is important to fix the hand well, keep the hands motionless and give the child the opportunity to rise by himself, slightly pulling him towards himself.

Since the tiny arms are still weak, there is no need to overdo it with lifts. A few approaches are enough, after which the baby should rest.

Push ups

Spread a blanket on the floor and place the baby on it, tummy down. He will try to rise in emphasis on his hands, tearing his chest off the floor. So you get such mini-push-ups, in which the back of the child will gradually become stronger.

Strengthening the back and neck

On the same blanket, in the same position of the body, lay out bright toys, colorful books, pictures, in a word, everything that may interest the baby at a distance of twenty to thirty centimeters from the baby.

In an attempt to reach the target, he will have to use the main muscle groups that are necessary for sitting, which means that performing such an exercise for 2-4 minutes 2-3 times a day will significantly strengthen them and prepare the child for the next stage of training.

Remembering the position

Sit the child on your lap, so that he rests well on you. In this position, you can stay for 2-3 minutes at the initial stages of training (at the age of 5 months), and up to 20 minutes a day, with a gradual increase in the time interval for crumbs from six months.

Day after day, this position will become more familiar to the baby, and you can help him hold it on his own, little by little reducing the support with your hands.

We train perseverance

This exercise can be done both on the hands and on a hard surface. Seat the baby and fix his legs with one hand, grab his hand with the other hand, so that he securely grabs your thumb. Now the child can be gently rocked - smoothly to the left, right, forward, backward.

The exercise should take no more than 2-3 minutes. Such simple actions will help not only to force the baby to keep the body in a straight position, thereby straining the press, oblique abdominal muscles, muscles of the neck and back in turn, but also allow you to train his vestibular apparatus.

slopes

The lateral muscles of the body and the muscles of the back are strengthened with the help of inclinations. In order to perform the exercise correctly, it is necessary to turn the child with his back to himself and put him on his legs. With one hand, the mother fixes the baby above the knee, with the other she supports him under the breast.

Now you can slowly tilt the baby until the back takes a horizontal position, after which it should be returned to its original vertical position. You can repeat the slopes 8-10 times.

Maintaining a seated position

The last exercise on how to teach a child to sit is suitable for children of six months of age.

To complete it, you will need to seat the baby on the sofa and insure him with a high pillow, which will become his main support. As soon as the child sits up straight with his legs stretched out in front of him, invite him to hold your hands. First try rocking him so that he can be held while sitting.

Now you can set the task more difficult: invite the baby to get his favorite toy. To do this, take it in your free hand and lift it a little higher than the one for which the baby is holding. The main goal is to get him to let you go and try to get the toy while maintaining a sitting position.

In the first couple, it will be difficult for him to do this, but the more often you do this exercise, the better the coordination of the child's movements will become.

We have already talked about how to teach a child to sit. Supplement your classes with a good mood and a positive attitude, conduct them in an unobtrusive playful way. Accompany all your actions with a kind word, praise, song or poem. So you will not only enjoy the exercises, but also contribute to the mental development of the baby and establish emotional contact with him.

Do not force children to sit if they do not want to. Do not break the natural course of things if the child does not like your efforts to teach him. Nothing good comes from coercion.

Remember that babies learn to sit, on average, at 6-8 months. Babies who are weak from birth learn to sit later.

If you perform regular exercises, then the child will delight his parents with a new honed skill by the age of 7 months, so go for it, and one day your child will meet the morning sitting in bed and smiling with his whole toothless or toothy mouth!

1. The child speaks fluently in sentences and understands the meaning of what is said.
2. The child distinguishes sounds (what speech therapists call developed phonemic hearing). Simply put, the baby will easily understand by ear where House And onion, And where - volume And Luke.
3. Your child pronounces all the sounds and has no speech problems.
4. The child understands directions: left-right, top-bottom. Let's omit the point that adults often confuse right and left. For learning to read, it is important that the baby can follow the text from left to right and from top to bottom.

8 tips to help your child learn to read

Set an example

In a family where there is a culture and tradition of reading, children themselves will be drawn to books. Read not because it is necessary and useful, but because it is a pleasure for you.

Read together and discuss

You read aloud, and then look at the picture together, encouraging the child to interact with the book: “Who is this drawn? Can you show me the cat's ears? And who is this standing next to her? Older children can be asked more difficult questions: “Why did he do this? What do you think will happen next?"

Go from simple to complex

Start with sounds, then move on to syllables. Let the words consisting of repeated syllables be the first: ma-ma, pa-pa, da-da, nya-nya. After them, move on to more complex combinations: ko-t, zhu-k, do-m.

Show that letters are everywhere

Play a game. Let the child find the letters that surround him on the street and at home. These are the names of stores, and memos on information stands, and even traffic light messages: it happens that the inscription “Go” lights up on green, and “Wait so many seconds” on red.

play

And play again. Stack blocks with letters and syllables, make up words, ask your child to read you some kind of sign or inscription on the packaging in the store.

Take every opportunity to exercise

Whether you are sitting in line at the clinic or driving somewhere, get a book with pictures and short stories to them and invite your child to read together.

Build Success

Repeat familiar texts, look for already known heroes in new stories. The runaway bunny is found in both "Teremka" and "Kolobok".

Don't force

This is perhaps the most important. Don't take away a child's childhood. Learning should not go through tears.

6 time-tested techniques

ABCs and primers

Traditional, but the longest way. The difference between these books is that the alphabet fixes each letter with a mnemonic picture: on a page with B a drum will be drawn, and next to YU- Yula. The alphabet helps to remember letters and - often - interesting rhymes, but will not teach you how to read.

The primer consistently teaches the child to combine sounds into syllables, and syllables into words. This process is not easy and requires perseverance.

Parents agree that one of the most understandable methods for teaching preschoolers is Nadezhda Zhukova's primer. The author simply explains the most difficult thing for a child: how to turn letters into syllables, how to read mum rather than start naming individual letters me-a-me-a.

If, when learning from an ABC book, a child consistently masters letters and syllables, then in 52 Zaitsev cubes he is given access to everything at once: a single letter or combinations of a consonant and a vowel, a consonant and a hard or soft sign.

The child effortlessly learns the differences between voiceless and voiced sounds, because the cubes with voiceless consonants are filled with wood, and the cubes with voiced ones are filled with metal.

The cubes also differ in size. The large ones depict hard warehouses, the small ones - soft ones. The author of the technique explains this by the fact that when we pronounce on the(hard warehouse), mouth opens wide, neither(soft warehouse) - lips in a half smile.

The set includes tables with warehouses that the parent sings (yes, he doesn’t speak, but sings) to his child.

The child quickly masters warehouse reading with the help of cubes, but may begin to swallow the endings and will face difficulties already at school when parsing a word by composition.

Folders and Towers by Vyacheslav Voskobovich

In Skladushki, Vyacheslav Voskobovich reworked Zaitsev's idea: 21 cards show all the warehouses of the Russian language with nice thematic pictures. Included is a CD with songs, the texts of which go under each picture.

Folders are good for kids who love looking at pictures. Each of them is an occasion to discuss with the child where the kitten is, what the puppy is doing, where the beetle flew.

You can teach your child using these cards from the age of three. At the same time, it should be noted that the author of the methodology himself does not consider it necessary Vyacheslav Voskobovich: “How to keep a child in yourself? Play!" boost early development.

"Teremki" by Voskobovich consist of 12 wooden cubes with consonants and 12 cardboard cubes with vowels. First, the child gets acquainted with the alphabet and tries with the help of parents to come up with words that begin with each of the letters.

Then it's time to learn the syllables. In a teremok with a letter M invested BUT- and the first syllable is obtained ma. From several towers you can lay out words. Learning is based on play. So, when replacing a vowel House will turn into smoke.

You can start playing towers from the age of two. At the same time, parents will not be left alone with the cubes: the kit includes a manual with a detailed description of the methodology and game options.

Evgeny Chaplygin's manual includes 10 cubes and 10 moving blocks. Each dynamic block consists of a pair - a consonant and a vowel. The task of the child is to twist the cubes and find a pair.

At the initial stage, as with any other method of learning to read in warehouses, the child makes the simplest words from repeating syllables: ma-ma, pa-pa, ba-ba. The involved motor skills help to quickly remember the shape of the letters, and the search for already familiar syllables turns into an exciting game. The cubes are accompanied by a manual describing the methodology and words that can be composed.

The optimal age for classes is 4-5 years. You can start earlier, but only in the game format.

American doctor Glenn Doman suggests teaching children not individual letters or even syllables, but whole words. Parents call and show the child the words on the cards for 1-2 seconds. In this case, the baby is not required to repeat what he heard.

Classes start with 15 cards with the simplest concepts like mothers And dads. Gradually, the number of words increases, those already learned leave the set, and the child begins to study phrases: for example, color + object, size + object.

How to understand that the child understood and remembered the visual image of the word, if the author of the methodology recommends starting classes from birth? It is worth paying attention to an important detail that parents miss in an attempt to make their child the smartest, most developed, the best.

Glenn Doman in "The Harmonious Development of the Child" strongly emphasizes that it is not necessary to arrange tests and checks for the child: kids do not like this and lose interest in classes.

Better to remember 50 cards out of 100 than 10 out of 10.

Glenn Doman

But considering that parents will not be able not to check, he advises, if the child is willing and willing, to play the game. For example, you can put a few cards and ask to bring one or point to it.

Today psychologists, neurophysiologists Steven Novella, MD, "Psychomotor Patterning" and pediatricians American Academy of Pediatrics "The Doman-Delacato Treatment of Neurologically Handicapped Children" agree that the Doman method is not aimed at teaching reading, but at mechanical memorization of visual images of words. The child turns out to be an object of learning and is almost deprived of the opportunity to learn something on his own.

It is also worth adding: in order to proceed to the Doman reading stage, parents need to prepare cards with all (!) Words that are found in a particular book.

Montessori reading comes from the opposite: first we write and only then we read. Letters are the same pictures, so you first need to learn how to draw them and only then engage in pronunciation and reading. Children begin by tracing and shading the letters, and through this, they memorize their outline. When several vowels and consonants have been studied, they move on to the first simple words.

Much attention is paid to the tactile component, so children can literally touch the alphabet, cut out of rough or velvety paper.

The value of the technique lies in learning through play. So, you can put a rough letter and a plate of semolina in front of the child and offer to first circle the sign with your finger, and then repeat this on the semolina.

The difficulty for parents is the purchase or preparation of a significant amount of handouts.

conclusions

On the Internet and on posters advertising "developers", you will be offered cutting-edge methods for teaching a child to read at three, two years old, or even from birth. But let's be realistic: a happy mother is needed a year, not developmental activities.

The myth that it’s too late after three is firmly planted in the minds and hearts of tired parents and is actively fueled by marketers.

The authors of the methods all insist that the most natural process of learning for a child is through play, and not through classes in which the parent plays the role of a strict controller. Your main assistant in learning is the curiosity of the child himself.

Some children will study for six months and start reading at three, others have to wait a couple of years to learn in just a month. Focus on the interests of the child. If he likes books and pictures, then primers and Folders will come to the rescue. If he is a fidget, then cubes and the Montessori system will help.

In learning to read, everything is simple and difficult at the same time. If your child often sees you with a book, you have a tradition of reading before bed, your chances will increase significantly.

As soon as the child goes to first grade, mothers realize that they actually have to study with him. And the question of how to teach a child to cope with the lessons on their own becomes urgent.

Strictly speaking, in the first grade, nothing is asked and no grades are given. All homework assignments are so-called “recommendatory” in nature. But try not to complete them, you will instantly catch a sad emoticon and some other such signature of the teacher that it immediately becomes clear that you will have to do the lessons.

Tasks, in our parental opinion, also seem simple, but the baby is not yet able to do them himself with all concentration and accuracy. So we sit for hours on copybooks and mathematical warm-up. If you want your child to develop the skills of independent work steadily by the second grade, and by the third grade he began to fully engage himself, you need to work on this from the first grade. And this is just as important as developing good handwriting or speed reading.

So, what should be done to teach a child to learn?

Define areas of responsibility. The child must know that his lessons and his grades are his responsibility. “Mom said so”, “Dad wrote it wrong”, “I asked my grandmother, she nodded” - all this does not relieve him of responsibility for his studies. Because knowledge is what he needs. Set up your child so that his studies are like daddy's work. It is very important and very responsible, not always desirable, but in any case necessary.

Allocate constant time to do homework. Business time - an hour of fun, this is just about homework, which you don’t want to do, but you still need to, so it’s better to do it right away and then relax with a clear conscience. In the first few months, the child will get used to the fact that immediately after dinner he sits down to study, and will not pull until the last.

Set up your workspace. It is often more convenient for a first-grader's mother when the baby does homework in the kitchen, at least while he draws hooks in recipes, mom can peel potatoes or wash dishes. But in reality, all this is very distracting, and the necessary items are not always at hand. The child must have a job. Sitting at his table, the child knows that now there is no time for games and pampering, you need to concentrate. If he does his homework “on his knee”, it will be difficult for him to take them seriously.

The child must read the tasks himself and delve into them. It is a vicious practice of many parents to immediately read and explain on the fingers what is required of a small student. He just has to do it. This greatly harms the learning process. The child much later begins to understand the meaning of what is written. Already in the second grade, when tests and independent work begin, he will spend too much time trying to figure out what they want from him, and inevitably get worse grades than he could. You need to help and explain when you cannot do without it. And then at first it is better to ask how he himself understood the task.

Let your child try to complete the task on their own. In copybooks, of course, you can do without a draft. But math problems, examples and written reading answers are best done on a piece of paper first. And only then, together with you, analyze the mistakes and rewrite them for a clean copy.

Don't scold your child for grades. A four or even a three, received for a lesson that he did himself, is his experience. But it is imperative to praise for the top five, to say that he did a great job, and you are glad that his efforts were highly appreciated. No matter what anyone says, well-deserved praise is the best motivation to do everything on five.

Trust your child. Of course, you need to keep your finger on the pulse, but still, he is not such a fool, since he goes to school. The more tasks he performs on his own, the more responsible he is, unless, of course, he knows that the lessons will be checked and it is useless to cheat.

Parents of schoolchildren must have faced a situation where the child does not want to do homework. He is ready to do anything, but not homework. Often, these moments lead to stressful situations in the family. Mom and dad start to worry, get nervous about this. Anxiety is transmitted to the child, and depression occurs. Psychologists advise not to allow such situations. To do this, you need to know how to make the child do the homework so that the process is interesting and entertaining for him. Entire methods and a set of measures have been developed, which we will discuss in the article.

Do not feel sorry for the first-grader

Many parents are tormented by the question: “How to make a child do homework?” Remember: it is necessary to teach your baby to do homework without tantrums from the first grade. From the very beginning, you need to make it clear to the child that the learning process has begun, now he has mandatory tasks that he must cope with on his own.

It is important for parents to properly prepare and adapt the baby for a new stage in his life. Even during the holidays, it is worth arranging a place for doing lessons, establishing a routine. After the learning process has begun, you need to:

Hang the school timetable in a prominent place so that the child can make his own schedule. Do not forget to indicate the time of visiting circles and sections. In the first couple, the baby can not do without the help of parents. You don't have to decide everything for the child. Take a pencil and a notebook, make a detailed plan indicating the time for doing homework, walking in the fresh air, watching TV, playing games at the computer.

Never do homework for a child. Even if something does not work out for him, it is better to once again explain the rules again, ask leading questions, hint, suggest.

Try to strictly observe the regime from day to day, so that the child is drawn into the process. Deviate from the schedule only in difficult situations (health problems, urgent matters, and so on).

Explain to your child that school is work. And it depends only on him what the result will be.

Parents often feel sorry for first-graders, considering them small. But the educational process is built in such a way that all age capabilities of the kids are taken into account. You should not worry and think that your child has overworked, because if from the first days of classes you do not accustom the student to doing homework, in the future the question of how to make the child do his homework will definitely come up.

The draft is your friend

After the child began to attend school, the question arises of how to properly do homework with him. Teachers recommend using drafts without fail. This will save your child time. It is necessary to write essays, solve examples and problems in a separate notebook. After that, parents need to check what they have written. Only then can it be transferred to a clean copy.

In the draft, the child can correct mistakes, do not ask to rewrite it several times. This is what a notebook is for.

When answering the question of how to properly do homework with a child, it is necessary to be guided by the rules of psychologists and remember that until grade 5 children are not assiduous, attention is distracted. After 20-30 minutes of doing the lessons, you should take a small five-minute break. The mistake of parents is not to let the children out of the table for 2-3 hours.

Why does the child not want to do homework. We find out the reasons

From many children you can hear the phrase that they do not want to do their homework. In this situation, the question logically arises: “How to make a child do homework without scandals?” First you need to find out the reasons why he refuses to fulfill them. In fact, there are not so many of them:

natural laziness. Unfortunately, there are children who have a similar phenomenon. But there are very few of them. If you know that some processes (reading books, an exciting game, watching cartoons, drawing, etc.) captivate the baby for a long time, then the problem is clearly not laziness.

Fear of failure. This is one of the most common reasons, especially if there have been situations in which adults behaved incorrectly before. Let's say a strict teacher scolded the whole class for a mistake, or parents scolded for a bad mark. Such actions are not allowed. Otherwise, it will affect the further education and success of the child.

The child has not fully mastered the subject. This problem is especially acute for first graders and high school students. Every effort must be made to ensure that the child understands the material.

Lack of parental attention. It would seem, how can not doing the lessons be associated with the love of mom and dad? Psychologists find a direct link in this. Thus, children seek to attract attention to themselves and evoke at least some feelings. As a rule, such situations occur in families of workaholics. There is only one way out of this story - to praise the baby as often as possible and say that you are proud of him.

The process itself seems uninteresting to the child, especially for first-graders who are accustomed to perceiving classes only in the form of a game. The task of parents and teachers is to adapt the kids to learning as soon as possible.

Before asking the question of how to teach a child to do homework, it is necessary to find out the reason why he refuses to do homework. If you cannot manage on your own, you should seek help from a specialist. He will recommend to arrange a family council, and already on it to discuss the possible reason and unwillingness of the child to study. And here the main thing is to find the right demeanor for adults: not to shout, but to engage in a constructive dialogue.



What to do if the child does not understand the subject

Parents can deal with all of the above problems of non-fulfillment of lessons on their own. But what about the situation when the child simply does not understand the subject, or is it difficult for him? Psychologists say that adults solve this problem on their own, simply performing difficult tasks for children. Thus, they further aggravate the situation.

The only right decision is to hire a teacher or tutor. You should not spare money, a few individual lessons are enough to help the child deal with a complex topic.



Do you need help learning the lessons?

Some children do everything to relieve themselves of the responsibility for completing the lessons. To do this, they pretend that they are sick, overtired, ask their parents to help them. Of course, they agree, but do not understand that the child captures them "on the hook." It is necessary to succumb to the trick several times, and such a scheme will work all the time.

To answer the question of how to teach a child to do homework on their own, it is necessary to analyze the following situations:

how often does the baby resort to your help;

How long has he been ill?

What grade is the child in?

If he often resorts to your help, while being a little sick, and even a high school student, you just need to explain to him that from now on he does his homework on his own. But it is better not to bring to such a situation, but from the first grade to teach the baby to do his homework himself.

Teaching a child to be independent

The question of how to make a child do homework on their own comes up quite often with parents. If, with the help of adults, a student still somehow tries to solve problems, then one cannot cope in any way. Against this background, there are scandals and squabbles that only aggravate the situation.

First of all, you need to try to explain to the child that further admission to the university depends on his studies. The better the successes, the more likely it is to get into a prestigious institution. Never do homework for a student. The maximum you can help is to explain this or that rule.

It is not necessary to constantly monitor the process, it is enough to check the draft and the clean copy. This is the only way to develop independence in children. You need to start this from the first days of study, and then in the future you will not have a question: “How to teach a child to do homework on his own?”

Is a cash reward needed?

Recently, a new way has emerged among parents to reward children for good grades in school. The prize is money. Thus, they are sure that the student will try harder, independently complete the lessons. Psychologists say that this is a huge mistake. There should be no monetary relationship between parents and children at this age.

There are many ways to get your child to do their homework without crying or tantrums. It is enough just to gain strength and patience. After all, school time is a rather difficult time, especially for first graders.

As an encouragement, there may be a trip to the circus, cinema, game center. It is desirable that parents spend this time with their children. Thus, they will establish contact even more.

Many parents ask psychologists: “How to make a child do homework on his own?” Using methods of motivation. But cash prizes are not allowed. Indeed, in the future, children will demand rustling banknotes for all their good deeds and achievements.

Algorithm for doing homework

School time is a rather difficult time for children and their parents. The child is required to be independent, more responsible, responsible for his actions. Often schoolchildren (especially first-graders) refuse to do their homework, or do it with great reluctance. This causes conflict. Often you can hear the phrase from parents: “How to teach a child to do homework on his own?” In order for the process to go “like clockwork” and not cause any particular difficulties, you need to know and follow the following rules:

After the child came from school, you should not immediately force him to sit down to complete the lessons. The following scheme will be optimal: a walk in the air, lunch, rest up to 30 minutes.

The best time to do homework is from 15.00 to 18.00. This has been proven by experts. During these hours, the greatest working capacity of the brain was noticed.

Follow the routine. Try to complete tasks at the same time.

Try to immediately choose difficult subjects, and then move on to easier ones.

Do not constantly supervise the child. Teach him to be independent. To begin with, let him do the work in a draft, bring it for verification, and then transfer the data to a clean copy.

After your child is done with homework, don't forget to praise him.

So that you do not have a question about how to make a child do homework, follow the above rules and recommendations.

Whip or gingerbread?

Psychologists very often face situations when a child closes in on himself, ceases to perceive his parents, he seems to move away from the outside world, and finds peace in computer games. Why it happens? It's all the fault of the wrong behavior of adults who are approved at the expense of children.

Many people believe that the best way to get a child to do something is to show their advantage. This can be achieved by shouting or punching. This position is incorrect. with children, encouragement, praise - that's the key to success. The same goes for doing homework.

You can often hear the phrase that the child refuses to do homework. Perhaps the reason lies in the fact that parents misbehave with schoolchildren. It is important to adhere to the following rules:

When checking homework, never raise your voice, do not call names and humiliate children. To begin with, praise the baby for the fact that the lessons are done. And only then start pointing out mistakes, if they were made.

Grades are a sore subject for many parents. After all, you want your child to be the best. And how unpleasant it is sometimes to hear the phrase that the child did not cope with the task and received an unsatisfactory grade. Try to calmly talk with the student, explain that the key to success in the future is the acquired baggage of knowledge.

In order to answer the question of how to do homework with a child without screaming, you need to remember the following: each person is a person, with his own character, you should not break him. Humiliation, screaming, hurtful words will only aggravate the situation, and parents will lose their dignity in the eyes of the child.

Basic rules for parents to remember

Many parents ask: “If the child does not learn lessons, what should I do?” First you need to find out the reason why this is happening. Perhaps it is banal - a misunderstanding of the subject. If so, you need to help the child and hire a tutor.