Can the child stay alone at home. When can I leave my child alone at home? At what age is it safe for children to leave home alone

You may have noticed that in many foreign films, parents under no circumstances leave their younger children alone. They are either looked after by older siblings, hired teenage nannies, or adult nannies. If no such person is at their disposal, then the parents take the child with them.

All this is because many countries have their own laws, according to which it is possible to leave a child alone at home only from a certain age. For example, in different states of America, this age varies from 10 to 18 years. And if parents disobey the letter of the law, then they can be fined, or even subject them to more serious punishment (especially if they leave a very young child under the supervision of someone who cannot be left alone).

Probably, you yourself do not like to leave a small child alone, because if you even once tried to do this, then you were worried yourself and found the same cranky kid at home. But up to what age is this state of affairs normal? Let's try to figure it out.

Requirements of Russian laws

It should be noted right away that in our country there are no laws that would clearly limit the age up to which it is strictly forbidden to leave a child alone at home. In other words, this question remains on the conscience of the parents. But it should be borne in mind that our legislation provides for criminal liability for knowingly leaving without help someone who is not able to take care of himself, and to whom you could help. That is, if you leave your child alone at home, and something happens to him, it will be entirely your fault. And you will be legally responsible for it.

In addition, in Russia, minors are prohibited from being on the street unaccompanied by adults after 22:00 (or 23:00, depending on the region). In some regions / territories / republics it is possible to walk at night without adults from the age of 16, in some - only from the age of 18.

Why is it dangerous to leave a child at home alone?

Most likely, the question of at what age a child can be left alone did not interest you in the context of potential administrative or criminal liability, but in connection with the desire to take care of your baby. So let's start by finding out why this is an important question in principle.

You've probably noticed that as soon as you turn your back, your child already finds new fun. Moreover, at best, it can be associated with damage to property, and at worst, with the emergence of a threat to his health or life. Even in a tidy apartment with relatively safe appliances, there are many potential sources of danger. Open sockets and weak nets on the windows, heavy objects on the top shelves of cabinets, even light bulbs in chandeliers and a regular bathtub. And if you think that your child will never think of taking a full bath of water and playing a submarine in it, creating the danger of drowning, then do not promise.

You must understand that children live in their own world, which is quite strikingly different from ours, the world of adults. And this continues for a long time (in fact, until the child himself grows into a relatively adult). He has a well-developed imagination and fantasy, and he may well come up with an occupation for which you will not find any logical explanation. And he will do this not to anger you, not to spoil something, but simply because he perceives the world that way.

Abandoned child tantrum

Not every child left alone at home begins to explore the surrounding space with interest and come up with a variety of entertainments. Many babies are simply scared of being abandoned and start to worry a lot about it.

The child will not be reassured that you told him that you went out to get medicine and will be back very soon. He begins to fantasize that you are gone forever, that you will never come again (or will not come very soon), minutes drag on for him like hours. Therefore, upon your return, you run the risk of finding, if not harming yourself, the baby, then the child in tears, snot and wild hysteria, who will have to be reassured for a long time.

How old should a child be to be safely left at home alone?

• If we talk about leaving the child alone at home without any doubts at all, then we can call the age at the level of 12-14 years. This is the age when he knows how to use any home appliances without any problems, understands the purpose of each thing, and practically leaves the world of children's fantasies. And the teenager will definitely not worry that he was left at home alone.

• If we are talking not so much about the desire as about the need to leave the child alone (the same purchase of medicines, or, for example, work, some unforeseen situations), then, in principle, the milestone can begin from 7-8 years. Although a lot here depends on the level of development of your child, his ability to self-care and a real view of things.
• If you need to go somewhere in an emergency, then with an interference you can say about the theoretical admissibility of leaving one child at home at the age of about 5-6 years. Otherwise, it's better to take him with you or ask someone you trust to look after him.

How to protect a child who is left alone at home?

So, with the question of how long you can leave the baby alone, we more or less figured it out. Now let's find out what you should consider if you still find yourself forced to take a similar step with a small enough child:

1. Remove as far as possible anything that could theoretically be dangerous to him. These are stabbing and cutting objects, medicines, matches and the like. Moreover, it is better to do this not under the direct "supervision" of the kid: he may become interested in what you are hiding from him, and in your absence he will climb into the very top drawer of the cabinet, in which, for example, you have hidden interesting multi-colored "sweets".
2. Close balconies and windows, as a last resort - open them in ventilation mode. The child does not understand that if he strongly rests on the net, he will fall. Nor does he understand that if he falls out of the window, he will be injured (or even die). Therefore, the likelihood of this must be reduced to zero.

1. Teach your child to use a gas stove, kettle, TV, and other appliances that he or she may theoretically need. You need to worry about this in advance. If you urgently need to leave, and the child, for example, is not yet accustomed to using a gas stove, turn off the gas just in case. Commands not to approach her alone may not be enough.
2. Make sure your child has an adequate supply of food and knows where it is. Otherwise, he can climb somewhere where he should not climb, just in an effort to find something edible.

1. Explain to the child clearly and clearly where you are going, why you are doing it, and when you will return. This is very important for his psychological comfort. It is highly advisable to leave your child a phone so that he can call you if he gets worried. Or so that you yourself can dial him and talk if you doubt that everything is fine with him.
2. Tell your child what to do if someone rings the doorbell or calls. In the case of a door, it is probably best to prevent the baby from opening it altogether. In the case of the telephone, it is forbidden to tell anyone that he was left alone at home.

1. Explain to your child what the police, the Ministry of Emergency Situations, the gas service, the ambulance are, and teach how to call these services. Of course, he should also have your number, as well as the numbers of your neighbors, if you have any good relations with them. The kid should have clear instructions on what to do in case someone starts pounding on the door, or if a fire starts in the apartment.
2. Help the kid learn his last name, first name and patronymic, as well as your full name and the exact address of your residence. This may be needed in an emergency if he still has to call the police or the Ministry of Emergencies. At the same time, you need to make the child understand that it is by no means worth giving out such information to everyone you meet.

If you take care of all of the above, you can leave your child at home relatively calmly.

In conclusion, we note that as the baby grows and develops, the tendency becomes radically opposite. If then, when he can really be called a baby, it is extremely undesirable to leave him alone at home, then a teenage child, on the contrary, needs it in its own way. He already needs freedom, personal space and personal time. Therefore, be able to gradually loosen control as your child grows up in order to help him grow up as a harmonious personality and not spoil the relationship with him.

Recently, when my child fell ill, I had to stay at home. At first I tried to persuade my husband to skip work, then I called my always busy grandparents, and in the end I explained to my boss for a long time that I had no one to leave my sick child with, and today I would not be able to make my colleagues happy with my presence. Listening carefully to my telephone debates, the three-year-old dumbfounded me with the question: "Mom, when can I stay at home alone so you can work?"

A simple, at first glance, child's question puzzled me: really, at what age can you leave a child at home alone? How to prepare your baby for this important event? How do you know that a child is mentally ready to spend several hours alone and not get hurt? Questions arose one after another, but there was no answer ...

What is the taste of independence

There is no unequivocal answer to these questions: some children at 4-5 years old can study alone and do not need the constant attention of their parents, while others, even at 12 years old, are scared to leave unattended even for a few minutes. But, in spite of everything, it is still necessary to accustom the child to independence, only when and how to do it.

According to psychologists, much depends on the character and temperament of the child. If you are not going to take care of your child before the wedding, you must promptly give him a taste of independence. Agree, sooner or later the moment will come anyway when you have to release a grown-up child from under your wing. And it's better to start from 5-6 years old. The longer you control each step of the child, the more he will be tempted to do something forbidden when he is alone for the first time.

It is necessary to give a taste of independence gradually - with homeopathic doses, because even a life-threatening poison in small doses is useful. A person who is accustomed to small doses of poison is very difficult to poison with this very poison. So here - with a skillful dosage of independence, the child will be able to feel all the delights of "adult" life and learn to bypass the pitfalls.

In any business, the main thing is good preparation. Therefore, before leaving the child alone in the apartment, practice a little. As a warm-up before the main start, give your child maximum freedom in your presence and do not control his every step. Create the so-called semblance of complete freedom and independence, define a few hours for yourself ("mother's hour") when you will go about your business without being distracted by the child: "Let's now everyone do their own thing. And in an hour we will discuss what did we manage to do ". As a workout, you can leave the child alone, but at the same time not leave the apartment: for example, take a bath or go to bed. By making the child appear to be absent, you teach him to rely only on himself. At the same time, both you and the child are calm. Thanks to such training, the child will quickly get used to your temporary absence and will not turn to mom for help every minute. Now you can move on to complete independence.

Separately, it should be said about food intake. More often than not, let your child manage the kitchen himself and do not invite him to everything that is ready. Let the crumb pour himself the juice, make a sandwich and open the yogurt. On the day off, let the child prepare breakfast himself: mom is tired and wants to sleep. After a while, you will see that the child is quite familiar with the kitchen drawers and will not starve to death in your absence. Even if the child already knows how to use the stove, it is better not to do this alone. Leave ready-made food (for example, a cutlet with potatoes) in a thermos while you are away. At 5-6 years old, a child is already able to carefully open a thermos, put its contents on a plate and eat. If you have a microwave, you can reheat food in it. Try to leave your child those dishes that he loves most and eats with appetite. I can say from my own experience that if you leave your child a hated hodgepodge, which he eats with disgust in your presence, do not hesitate - at best he will flush it down the toilet and assure that everything was very tasty. This is exactly what I did as a child with dishes that did not make me hungry.

Before each parent one day the question arises - how to leave your baby at home alone? Not everyone has the opportunity to give a child to a grandmother, send it to kindergarten or pick it up from school on time.

And, sooner or later, moms and dads inevitably face this dilemma.

At what age a child can be left alone at home - the conditions for the readiness of children for this

At what age is the baby ready to be alone in the apartment?

This is a complex and controversial issue.

Traditionally busy parents are leaving their children at home already from 7-8 years old, but this criterion is very dubious - it all depends on whether your child is ready for such a serious step into independence.

Children are different ... One at the age of 6 is already able to warm up lunch and ride the bus without parents, and the other, even by the age of 9, is not able to tie his shoelaces and sleeps, clasping his mother's hand tightly.

Home alone - how to know that the child is ready?

Each positive answer is a "plus point" to the level of independence of your child. If you scored 12 points , we can congratulate you - your child is already big enough to spend a couple of hours without you.

You definitely can't leave your baby alone at home. if you answered no to most of the test questions.

And also if your child ...

1. She is afraid of being alone and strongly protests.
2. Doesn't know (ignores due to age) safety rules.
3. He will not be able to contact you in case of danger or a problem (he does not know how or does not have a means of communication).
4. Not able to control his desires, fantasies and emotions.
5. Too playful, impatient, inquisitive (underline as appropriate).

At what age can you leave a baby alone in an apartment according to the laws of the Russian Federation?

Unlike other countries, in Russia, unfortunately, the law does not provide for such restrictions. Therefore, all responsibility for their child lies with mom and dad.

Be extremely careful and careful when deciding on such a step, because the dangers in the apartment lie in wait for the child at every step. And, in most cases, it is better to take the baby with you or beg the neighbors to look after him than to regret the consequences later.

Preparing the child to stay at home alone - how does it happen?

So, your child has already given you his consent and is ready to step into independence.

How to prepare it?

Safety rules when the child is alone at home - reminders for children and parents!

The behavior of a baby left alone at home always goes beyond the boundaries of what is allowed by the mother.

The reasons are the usual curiosity, hyperactivity, fear, etc. In the child's apartment, dangers can lie in wait at every corner.

How to protect your child, what to do, and what to warn about?

Safety instructions for moms:

1. The child must know exactly his address, name of parents , neighbors, grandparents.
2. Additionally, all contact numbers should be written on stickers (on a special / board) and drive into the phone's memory, which naturally needs to be charged before leaving.
3. You should also write (and drive into the phone's memory) all emergency numbers - ambulance, police, firefighters, Ministry of Emergency Situations, gas service.
4. With good relations with neighbors, you can negotiate with them - periodically check the child (by phone or directly). Leave them a set of keys for every fireman.
5. If possible, install a video camera with online broadcast. So you can keep an eye on the child right from your phone. Of course, "prying is not good," but the safety of the child is more important. Until you are convinced that it is already quite independent, this method will help to avoid many problems.
6. Leave the child with all possible means of communication - landline telephone and mobile phone. If possible - Skype (if the child knows how to use it, and he is allowed to use a laptop).
7. If you leave your child with a laptop - ensure the safety of your child on the Internet in advance. Install a child's browser or special / program (approx. - childbirth / control) that protects the child from harmful content.
8. Draw (and discuss!) Memo posters with your child about the most dangerous areas and objects in the apartment - you cannot turn on the gas, you cannot open the doors, you cannot climb onto the windowsills, matches are not toys, medicines are dangerous, etc. Hang them in a prominent place.
9. Call your child every 20-30 minutes. He should know that his mother has not forgotten about him. And teach you how to answer other people's calls. Explain that it is strictly forbidden to tell anyone that "adults are not at home", your address and other details. Even if the aunt “at the other end” says that she is my mother’s friend.
10. Remind your baby to hang up. , call mom back and tell her about the strange call.
11. Do not open doors to anyone - the kid must learn this 100%. But this is not enough. Do not forget to explain how to act and who to ask for help in an emergency. For example, if someone persistently knocks on the door or even tries to break it.
12. Do not overload the child with instructions - he won't remember them anyway. Think over, Draw signs and hang them in the right places. Above the sockets, next to the gas stove, on the front door, etc.
13. Provide for every little thing. Windows must be carefully closed (it is better if double-glazed windows with special / locks on the handles are installed), all fragile and dangerous objects are removed as far as possible, medicines (knives, blades, household chemicals, matches) are hidden, gas is blocked, sockets are closed with plugs, wires are removed for skirting boards, etc. Follow all safety rules for children at home!
14. Explain why you cannot leave the apartment. An ideal option is an additional lock, in which the door cannot be opened from the inside.
15. If the child still does not know how to use the microwave (there is no talk about gas - it is better just not to turn it on), leave food for it that does not need to be heated and cooked. Flakes with milk, yoghurts with cookies, etc. Leave the tea for the child in a thermos. You can also purchase a special thermos for lunch - if the baby gets hungry, he will simply open the thermos and put a warm lunch on his plate.
16. If your "urgent matters" are close to home, you can use radios with a defined / range ... The kid will definitely like this method of communication, and you will be calmer.

What to do with children who are left alone at home

Remember: your the child must be busy! If he gets bored, he will find something to do on his own, and they may be, for example, helping his mother with ironing the clothes, searching for prohibited items, or even worse.

Therefore, think in advance - what to do with the child.

It will be about children 7-9 years old (It is simply impossible to leave younger children alone, and children after 10-12 years old are already quite capable of occupying themselves).

Plan activities for your child based on HIS interests, not your requirements. Sometimes it's better to step back from principles when your child's safety is at stake.

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WHEN CAN THE CHILD BE LEFT ALONE? SHOULD I LEAVE IT? AND IF YES, HOW TO TRAIN TO IT?

But sooner or later the question arises before parents: should they leave their child alone at home? Mom forgot to buy bread for dinner, or she urgently needs to pay for the phone. Well, just think, the child will sit at home alone for a while. Our grandmothers left their children at home for the whole day - and nothing. Many, for sure, still do not doubt that a one-year-old baby can be left alone at home. And his roar for an hour will only bother compassionate neighbors.

Perhaps psychologists will disappoint us by answering that children under the age of seven cannot be left alone at home. And in some countries there is a law that prohibits leaving children under the age of 12 alone at home. Otherwise, reckless parents are in serious trouble. Agree that we are still lucky.

Of course, the girl next door, who has been home alone since she was five, is just smart. But all children are different. And age is just one of the conditions. First of all, you need to decide if your child can be left unattended. It depends on his character. Some children are independent from an early age, and even ask their parents to leave them at home. This is how they feel like adults. Others are frivolous at school age, holding on to their mother's skirt.

If the baby is afraid, and even more so crying, in no case should you forcefully leave him at home alone. Otherwise, it will take a very long time to rid him of his fears, and for a very long time he will not be able to remain alone even in the next room.

The kid must give his consent to stay at home alone. The first time you can be absent no more than 10-15 minutes. This is enough to jump out to the store for bread. Also remember that the time the baby is alone at home should be increased gradually. Psychologists do not recommend leaving seven-year-olds for more than one hour. Then the child may just get bored and find entertainment that the parents will not be happy with.

The kid should definitely know where, why you went and when you will return. At this age, children already know how to use a watch, so show where the hands will be when you come. And be sure to be punctual - don't even linger for a few minutes. After all, the baby may start to get nervous or think that since the parents are undisciplined, it means that he can do that too.

Of course, it is not enough to close the child and tell him to sit still and not come to the door. The kid should definitely know what to do in an “extreme” situation. Leave a phone number where he can call “if something happens,” and explain what he has to say. It is best if these are cards with large phone numbers written on them.

Your instructions should not overload the child - do not go there, otherwise you will be struck by an electric current and ..; do not go out to the balcony, otherwise one boy came out like this ... The child, for sure, has already heard all this. Take all the necessary precautions (turn off the gas, close the balcony, secure the sockets), and formulate your instructions very briefly.

It is best for this time to give the child a task that he will get carried away with and will fulfill with pleasure. "When I come, you will show me your drawing, and we will definitely hang it on the wall."

When you return, ask what the kid has been doing all this time. And if he nevertheless nags, do not judge him harshly, but be sure to explain why this should not be done.

Some mothers are very fond of checking how the child is following their orders. And they resort to the “forbidden” method: they come to the door and start ringing, do not respond when the kid fearfully asks: “Who is there?” Maybe once and nothing. But the child will get used to it and at the most inopportune moment will decide that it is you playing him again.

Psychologists do not recommend leaving an older child with a younger one, if he is very small. And with a friend-neighbor is also not always useful. You do not know how he will behave when he feels that he is alone in someone else's apartment, where his own mother does not “threaten” him with anything.

Psychologist advises

Do not leave your child alone at home until the age of seven.

Your first absence should not last more than 10-15 minutes.

Elzya leave the baby alone without his consent.

If the child is too shy, then you should not rush to accustom him to independence in this way. Let it grow a little.

Be sure to come back on time! The kid should be confident in you, then he will also become more disciplined.

Recently, a woman came to my appointment with a breakup with her husband. Their family life did not go well, divorce was the only way out, but nevertheless, the woman was panicky afraid to be left alone. Why? We talked with her for a long time on this topic. Was she financially dependent on her husband? No, the woman made a successful career, earned good money, while her husband did not have a permanent job and he was interrupted by odd jobs, while drinking his poor booty. He was not involved in raising children, did not know how to repair electrical appliances and did not like to hammer in nails with a word, he could not be called a "support in life". Nevertheless, there was a panic fear that her husband would leave and leave her alone. After a long conversation, I finally managed to figure out the reason. When this woman was six years old, her mother went to work on the night shift, and the girl was left alone at night. She was very afraid. Curled up in a ball in a ball, clung to the corner of the blanket, as if it were someone's tail, and, looking at the wall, lay all night in an embrace with this tail and waited for mom. She carried her childhood fear of being one night into adulthood.

This case is quite typical. Very often, adults have problems precisely because they were left alone in childhood. Really, really, this cannot be done? It all depends on the age of your child.

Until one year old, it is advisable not to leave the child alone, even in the room. The baby does not understand that his mother has gone to the kitchen, his world is limited by the space of the room, and he thinks that the world ends behind the door. If mom left the room, it means that she is gone forever, so a heart-rending cry is immediately heard. Try not to leave the child at all during this period, if you are peeling potatoes or washing the floor, let the child always be nearby. Only when he is asleep can you leave, but not for long: what if he wakes up and you are not around? Believe me, this is a real tragedy for the kid.

After a year, the child can be separated for the night and let him sleep alone in the nursery, if, of course, your living conditions allow. But this should be exactly the nursery, and not the room of the grandparents or the living room. The nursery, with his toys, with his things, with his furniture. At this age, he needs a cozy soft toy bear, doggie or squirrel, which will replace his mother in those minutes when she is not around. This toy is absolutely living creature for your little one. You can tell the toy: "Bunny, I'm going to cook dinner now, and you see that Sasha behaves well." And you will say to Sasha: "Do not offend Bunny. I will come and ask him how you behaved." With such a toy, children will easily let you go to the kitchen to cook dinner or chat on the phone with a girlfriend. With her, they will easily fall asleep, not being afraid to stay in the room at night.

But if you need to leave the apartment, then leaving the child in the care of the toy is not enough - you need an adult. And not a casual adult, but a close, well-known, whom the child trusts as much as he trusts you. It may be a grandmother, an old neighbor, a well-known nanny, but not the one you invited yesterday through an advertisement in the newspaper.

When leaving the child alone, it is very important to understand how you come back, how you meet the child. Often, a mother, coming home from work, throws her bags, hurries to cook dinner, and simply shrugs off the child, do not bother. I'll put you to bed in the evening, then I'll read a fairy tale. And now I have no time. This is a very dangerous mistake that many adults make, and then wonder why their adult children reject older parents? Why don't they care about the elderly? Yes, because the old people in their youth planted a time bomb. There is nothing more important than a child, no meals, no phone calls. And no matter how busy mom is, the first thing, when she comes home from work, she has to kiss her child, ruffle his hair, ask how he spent that day without her. This will take you no more than 10-15 minutes. Then do borscht, washing, cleaning. But only later.

At the age of 3, the psychological birth of a child takes place, and it is during this period that the foundation of your relationship with him is laid for the rest of your life. It is during this period that you must be extremely attentive to your child.

At the age of 5, the child enters a new stage in his development, the imagination is formed, fears appear. At this time, it is also very dangerous to leave him alone: ​​he is afraid to fall asleep alone, he sees beeches and byaks, and these fears must be respected. Here again your favorite toy will come to the rescue, but your presence is also necessary. It is advisable that it is the mother, and not the grandmother, who is there during the crisis moments in the baby's life, if she wants to maintain a good relationship with him for the rest of her life. Grandma is a different person. If the mother is busy all the time, leaves the child at crucial moments, he gets the impression of being unnecessary. And this impression remains for life. Believe me, attention to a child does not require physically much time at all. The main thing is that it is constant and timely. The moment of falling asleep is very important - be at this moment with him.

When a mother leaves the house and goes to work, leaves the child alone in the country, it is important then to follow how he meets her. If he does not run towards him, but continues to play in the sandbox as if nothing had happened, this is a bad symptom. It means that the kid was offended, although he does not show it. If he threw a tantrum, his resentment is obvious. But if he plays peacefully, let the mother not calm down: she urgently needs to change something, to rebuild her relationship with the child.

It often happens that the mother feels guilty and begins to curry favor with the child:

Are you really not offended? Don't you take offense at mommy? It’s not my fault that I wasn’t there, I’m working.

The kid will never say that he is offended by his mother, this is the structure of the human psyche, but the offense will stuck even more strongly in his heart. And let mom not be surprised if someday, later, for no reason, no reason, the child calls mom some offensive word.

And the mother is actually to blame for the fact that she works, but this does not mean at all that she should quit her job or experience a guilt complex. She should apologize to the baby for her (even the most just) absence and somehow compensate for it. That is, do not get rid of him with sweets and toys, but again give him time and attention: play together, read, go with him to the circus or visit friends. Then the child will eventually gain the confidence that you really do not leave him, and in fact it is not his fault that you leave for work. Children like working mothers and they are proud of them. But at the same time, one must always remember: it is necessary to give the child timely attention.

At 6-7 years old, you can already leave the child alone. All alone, without a grandmother. It is even necessary to do this in order to instill in him a sense of responsibility and independence, but this must be done very carefully. Start gradually. At first, you can leave the baby for a short period of time. Its duration depends on the characteristics of the child. For some, five minutes is a lot, while others will sit quietly for half an hour. But before you leave him, you need to prepare the child for this. In a few days you should say: "I will go to the store for half an hour on Friday. Do you mind? Can you be alone? Or is it better to call your grandmother?" And only if the child agrees, you can start the experiment. He will certainly agree if you have normal good relations. At the age of 6, the child develops a need for independence, and your care satisfies this need. But only if you have a really normal relationship. If a child does not trust you, he will never let you go. In such cases, you should seek the advice of a psychologist.

So, you start gradually, each time with preparation, to leave the child at home alone, gradually increasing the intervals. Americans do not leave their children at home until the age of 12, they have it prohibited by law, but there is a completely different life. However, we must not leave the child alone for a long time. Your "holidays" cannot last longer than three hours. Always leave your phone where you are and the phones of other relatives to whom the child can call. Because, even if he is independent, he still misses.

It is very important for parents to keep their promises accurate. If you said: I'll come at six, you must come exactly at six and not a minute later. Firstly, in this way you will achieve that later your son or daughter will keep the promises to come from a walk on time. They will get used to the fact that being late is unnatural. Secondly, at the age of 10-11, a child begins to fear for his loved ones. He already knows that the world is insidious, that there are disasters, accidents, and dangers around. He worries that you might be in danger, so he worries for you. Don't give him cause for concern. If you cannot guarantee the accuracy of the arrival, tell him another, later time, better if you come back earlier than make him nervous. Even phone calls to your child will not help here - after all, you promised, he will certainly demand that you return home as soon as possible. He's really worried!

LEAVING THE CHILD ONE, MOTHER SHOULD TRUST HIM FULLY, AND DO NOT TURN EVERY MINUTE, CHECKING: YOU TURNED OFF THE GAS? YOU HAVE DONE YOUR HOMEWORK? ARE YOU NOT LOCKING THE CAT IN THE CABINET? YOU DIDN'T MAKE A SHORT CIRCUIT OR A LITTLE FIRE FIGHTER? EITHER WE TRUST OUR CHILDREN, OR ... WE HAVE SOME PURE ADULTS OF OWN PROBLEMS THAT WE SOLVE AT THE EXPENSE OF OUR CHILDREN, AND THIS IS ALREADY ANOTHER TOPIC.

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