Types of family relationships. Family relationships

Greetings, my dear readers. Today I will talk about what family relationships are, how spouses interact with each other. The relationship between partners is one of the main things in family life. Depending on who plays what role, how close and honest the spouses are with each other, their common happy future depends.

A new stage in life

Marriage is a serious step forward for women and men. Just dating is far from the same as living together, leading a family life, distributing the budget, having children and much more.

Various types of relationships can develop between spouses. Distribution of leadership, who makes the final decision, who earns, and who does household chores. It would be better to discuss all these questions on the shore. Of course, any issue can be resolved in the process. The main thing is to be able to negotiate.

It happens that in the process of family life, spouses can switch roles. There is nothing wrong with that. Perhaps it will be better for this stage. Sometimes a woman takes a masculine place in the family and leads everyone forward. There is nothing wrong with this happening.

Life is unpredictable and throws up new challenges in our century. It is impossible to be ready for anything. Even the most collected person does not always have the ability to predict what will happen next. That is why it is important that the husband and wife know how to hear each other and are ready to help and lend their shoulders. When the spouses act in a united front, then they are not afraid of any difficulties.

Partners

One of the options for family interaction is partnership. The psychology of such tactics lies in the equality of both spouses. Both husband and wife are equal and equal in everything. Both have jobs that are important and there is no option that the profession of one is more serious and valuable.

Both husband and wife are engaged in household chores. To each according to his ability, as they say. It's the same with a child. Both parents are actively involved in the upbringing of children.

When an important decision is made in such a family, both partners sit down at the negotiating table and decide the issue in such a way that the outcome suits both. Maybe the decision is made with a coin, that's not the question. The main thing is equality. Complete for both spouses. They are like business partners walking alongside each other.

In such a family, there is no question of who is in charge. There is no showdown on the topic: why do you make such important decisions without me. But one day one of the partners may want more power, pulling the blanket over himself, quarrels and scandals will begin. To avoid this, it is necessary to talk. If a solution is difficult, postpone it. Give both yourself and your partner time to think.

This is not necessarily the case with a drag. But anything is possible. Therefore, be prepared, talk about what you will do if such a story happens in your family. Prepare ahead of time.

Tractor and trailer

In my opinion, the most common relationship is the tractor and trailer. When one of the partners leads, and the other follows him. It is not a fact that a man will be the tractor. I have met many couples in which it is the woman who drags her faithful with her, guides him, makes all important decisions, deals with the budget, and so on.

Sometimes such a relationship may look like the husband is in charge, but in reality the wife is like a gray eminence. She makes important decisions anyway. She tells her spouse how to act in a given situation. The game can be played both in the open and behind the scenes.

In such a relationship, it can be difficult to figure out who is really in charge. a woman will always be able to make a man think that he is in charge. Husbands rarely do this. They don't really like games like that.

These relationships allow the second person to easily shift the responsibility onto the second and live without hesitation. Just go where you are directed. But it happens that the presenter gets tired, breaks down, some kind of crisis occurs. And here the question arises - will the second spouse be able to take on the role of a tractor?

If he cannot, then marital happiness is at stake. After all, when both are just trailers, they will stand still and will not be able to move anywhere. But if the second spouse can take on the role of the main one, then the relationship will grow stronger and only become stronger. After all, help in a moment of crisis is the most precious. Easy to help when everything is fine.

Parent and child

Another option for the development of a family scenario can be the roles of a parent and a child. When an adult man is looking for a younger girl to become her father, mentor, mentor. Or, conversely, when a woman is looking for a son for herself, about whom she will take care, look after and educate in every possible way.

There is nothing wrong with this behavior. If there is a need, then why not. The main thing is that it suits both spouses. When they are both happy with their marital status, then there will be prosperity and happiness.
With the advent of a real child, the situation can change dramatically. Anyone who has tried on the role of a child can grow up, change his attitude and become more responsible and serious. A child changes a lot in people's lives. Including the marital role.

There is more to this relationship than just conjugal love. Since one of the partners plays the role of a parent, the relationship has a tinge of paternal or maternal concern. The psychology of such behavior is the desire to be either a parent or a child. Where it comes from is hard to say. For a more in-depth analysis, it is necessary to do some work with a specialist.

If both spouses are happy, then it doesn't matter what role they play. Parent, partner, child, trailer or truck. When husband and wife know how to negotiate, hear each other, talk about their problems- they can overcome everything in their path.

Friends-spouses

It also happens that relationships grow out of friendship. People have known each other for a long time, they are friends, but at one point there is a transformation of relations. And they understand that there is more going on between them than just friendship.
Such a relationship has both many advantages and disadvantages. And some things have both polarities. Partners have known each other for a long time, they are aware of their friend's past relationships, situations could occur between them that showed a person in his true guise. A lot happens in between. And how to deal with this further is not entirely clear.

Can you use what you know about your friend when you're in a relationship? Or is it worth starting everything from scratch? How to deal with friendly grievances? The new status brings new obligations and responsibilities.

The line between friendship between a man and a woman and a love affair is so vague and indefinite that partners themselves do not notice how their attitude towards each other is changing. One glance is sometimes enough to understand that something more intimate and amorous is happening.

Relationships are different, all people have their own characteristics. Even when the script seems the same, the relationship still has its own flavor. Love each other and everything else will follow. Nossrat Pezeshkian has an excellent work called “Training in family relations. 33 and 1 forms of partnership "... Perhaps you will find some interesting thoughts there for yourself.

Have a nice day!

Hello dear readers! Remember in Tolstoy: all happy families are alike, and each unhappy one is unhappy in its own way? Here we live, we enjoy happy moments, we try to withstand the problems that have piled up, but we certainly dream of an ideal home, almost without thinking, what kind of relationship should be in a normal family.

What to think about it, you say? And so everything is clear - the characteristics of an exemplary family are well known to everyone. But is it really so? I propose to check whether a harmonious relationship reigns in your family.

Not a carbon copy

There are no two completely identical families - and this is an axiom. And it will be a huge mistake to try to recreate what you saw earlier in your own family relationships. For example, repeat harmonious family relationships parents (about how to achieve harmony read ).

It is possible that you chose your husband, subconsciously relying on the image and qualities of your father, and yet your spouse is not your dad, so you should not expect the exact same behavior from him. The principle also works in the opposite direction - a wife will never be exactly like her husband's mother, although a wise woman will try to take the best from her mother-in-law.

You are unique, which means that your family is also unique, and therefore the relationship in it cannot be typical. And yet there are certain criteria established and followed rules and regulations that distinguish a happy family.

Points of contact

It is absolutely certain that the views on some things will not coincide. Even if at first it seems that “we look at the world in exactly the same way,” over time, discrepancies will surely appear. But in a normal family, people will definitely find compromises and will not impose their vision on a partner.

Let's say she loves to spend her vacation in a sun lounger on an exotic beach, and he loves rafting on mountain lakes and spending the night in a tent under the stars. It is not at all necessary to quarrel and spend your vacation separately, because you can find an option that will appeal to both parties. For example, rent a secluded chalet at a spa resort, where there are many relaxation programs, and at the same time extreme tourist outings are organized for restless guests.

The alignment of forces

How many times have you read that in an ideal family, spouses are equal? And in how many pairs do you see this? I have not been able to recall a single example - in all the role of the head of the family is performed by either a man or a woman. And yet they live in absolute harmony.

It is difficult to talk about happiness in a particular family, because people can pretend that everything suits them. But if they have lived together for more than one decade, so maybe a relationship where one dominates the other is not the worst option? And it is not necessary to try to prove every day who is the boss. It is better to make sure that your advice is of value and the other half will certainly listen to them.

About love

In textbooks on psychology, you will certainly come across the phrase: family relationships are based on love. But this feeling is so many-sided and changeable, which means that it is not at all a fact that it will become a reliable foundation for a normal family. But trust in husband and my wife, in my opinion, is much more reliable than the ephemeral concept of love, but I will not dwell on trust here, since I previously posted a very informative and detailed .

I am sure that in your environment there are couples who love each other "to madness", and the relationship between them is comparable to a boiling pot - turn up the light a little, it will start splashing over the edge so that it will scald those standing next to you. I would not talk about the normalcy of their relationship, although you look at them - they live so far, it seems, and are not blowing.

Of course we all represent what are relationship at the very beginning. The overwhelming feeling of being in love literally knocks the ground out from under your feet. It seems that with a cute paradise and in a hut, and with a loved one, any mountains are easy to move. And they ignore the warnings of adults that reality is not at all as beautiful as the created ideal.

Unfortunately, only a few manage to carry that thrill of youth, clouding of mind and heat in the heart to a ripe old age. Usually, the first love, with proper care, is transformed into and a bunch of other feelings that help you enjoy your family life.

This and:

• mutual understanding with his willingness to accept a person as he is (about how to get understanding back , I highly recommend reading );
• trust, when there is absolute confidence in the soulmate, and there is no place;
• devotion;
• desire takes care not only of children, but also of a husband (wife).

In the latter case, we are talking not only about giving money to the spouse for shopping (this, in my opinion, is just a manifestation of care to a lesser extent), but about household trifles. It seems easy to make them: cover your wife's legs with a blanket, prepare and bring a mug of hot chocolate, wash the dishes without a scandal. And for the little things, you don't need huge earnings or superpowers. Just a desire to please a loved one.

Hanging - is it good or bad?

Who should depend on whom in a normal family? When it comes to healthy codependencies , it is quite natural that the husband and wife depend on each other (read more about the dependence of spouses ). And this dependence is not only material. We are talking about mental, physical intimacy, when far from a loved one you start to get bored, literally do not find a place for yourself and try to be there as soon as possible.

There is another dependence - when the desires of one are limited by the inability to realize them. Quite often you only read on forums and social networks: “I can't leave because of financial difficulties”, “nowhere to move - no housing”, “children are not allowed”. Addiction forces people to maintain their marriage and kill their self-esteem - which is terrible. In conditions of such dependence, most likely, we are no longer talking about normal relationships, but only about a way of survival. And to break out of such captivity is very, very difficult.

And in sorrow and in joy

Each couple at the beginning of their marriage promises to support each other. Yes, yes, that very oath "about grief and joy." But is it possible to contain it? But it is important to support each other not only on global issues like choosing the setting for a country house or the principles of raising children, but also on trifles. Shoulder to shoulder it is much easier to overcome any challenge.

Ideally, it would be good to discuss any decision made at a family council in order to develop the right strategy and find the best option. But even if one of the parties, for whatever reason, makes a decision alone, it is worth supporting a bold act, because a person automatically takes responsibility, and not everyone can do this.

Another point is also important - a real family should always act as a "united front" in the eyes of others. That is, disputes over what color the new car will be or what to plant in place of a sawn old apple tree, if they can be discussed on outsiders, should not turn into a "battle of the titans."

What is missing in a normal family?

Special relationships are built between people who respect each other, and there is no place in them:

• firm conviction: we are different - it means that nothing can be fixed;
• phrases: either as I said (a), or - nothing at all;
• blackmail and mutual reproaches;
• self-affirmation of one at the expense of insulting and humiliating another;
• family scandals, especially in the presence of children or strangers;
• shifting absolutely all household duties onto the shoulders of one.

Building good relationships in the family is not an easy and responsible business. It is necessary to learn how to give love to loved ones, to accept their advantages and disadvantages. A cozy home, understanding relatives make family relationships comfortable. How to avoid conflicts? How to create a warm atmosphere in the family? Spouses, children, elderly parents work together day after day on relationships. Compromises are sometimes the only way out of difficult life situations.

The subtleties of family relationships

A family is a small group of people based on marriage or consanguinity. They are interconnected by a common way of life, responsibility, and moral norms.

Family relationships are warm feelings for parents and other relatives. They have common memories and traditions. Relationships are built on support, help in difficult situations. Shared holidays and vacations allow the family to meet more often if parents and children live in different places.

The money issue is a feature of family relationships. Elderly parents help their adult children and vice versa. The husband becomes the sole breadwinner if the wife takes care of the small child. The subtleties of monetary relations are based on mutual trust, responsibility for your family. If one of the relatives is sick or is in a difficult life situation, the money issue helps to solve some problems. In this case, only the family can be of great help.

Having children is another aspect of family relationships. Caring for babies, parenting methods are passed down from generation to generation. The development of the child, his ability to communicate and contact with other people - all this is laid in the family. Grandmothers and grandfathers take part in raising grandchildren. The emotional nature of family relationships is manifested in the development of the child's character. It is important that trusting and warm feelings connect all relatives.

Each family, with its principles and views, develops its own model of relationships. It is based on upbringing, life experience, professional characteristics. The existing types of family relations are divided into diktat, cooperation, guardianship, non-interference.

1. Dictate. The authority of the parents suppresses, ignores the interests of children. There is a systematic humiliation of the dignity of younger relatives by adults. Based on their experience, parents forcibly, in a harsh manner dictate their conditions of life, behavior, morality. Any manifestations of initiative, personal opinion are extinguished in the bud. Emotional abuse of children often turns into physical abuse.
2. Cooperation... A family united by common interests, mutual assistance. Joint decisions are made in certain situations. The reasons for the conflicts that have arisen and the ways out of them are discussed. Parents, children are able to overcome their own selfishness for the sake of common goals. The ability to compromise, overcoming individualism is the basis of family relations in this model.
3. Guardianship... Excessive care of parents makes children in such a family infantile, indifferent. Adults, investing material and moral values ​​in their offspring, protect them from everyday problems. Growing up, children do not know how to build relationships with peers and colleagues. They cannot act independently, without the consent, encouragement, and help of their parents.
4. Non-interference... Independent coexistence of adults and children. A policy of non-interference in all spheres of life. Usually, the psychology of family relations in this model is passive indifference to the thoughts, actions, goals of their children. This comes from the inability and unwillingness of adults to become wise parents.

Young family

The emergence of a new family is the beginning of a long journey for a husband and wife. Building relationships with new parents is possible only with mutual respect and patience. It is necessary to understand that the spouse's parents are also a family. With their values, traditions, memories. You should be extremely tactful to join a new family, trying to avoid resentment, conflict situations. Try not to allow offensive statements, the memory of which can last for years.

It is convenient to build family relationships when the husband and wife live separately from their parents. Then all responsibility for a comfortable life lies only with them. Spouses learn to adapt to each other. They seek compromises, learn habits, reconcile, make mistakes. Together they create their own family model, in which it will be convenient for themselves and their future children.

When young spouses begin life together separately from their parents, they quickly master new roles - husband and wife. They are not dominated by older relatives with their models of marriage. Parents have their own life experience, past mistakes and conflict situations. It is necessary to allow the young family to independently find solutions to certain problems.

New relatives

Most conflict situations arise when a young family begins to coexist with their parents. In this case, the peculiarities of family relations are to create harmonious ties with new parents. This is a difficult test that teaches tolerance for other people's views and relationships. Sometimes parents, while supporting their child, do not seek to protect the newly acquired relative or relative.

How to avoid conflicts in this situation?

• Treat your spouse's family with respect. Participate in common holidays, maintain (if possible) traditions.
• Tell the truth, don't lie. If inappropriate questions arise, talk in general terms without going into details.
• Don't jump to conclusions. In every unpleasant situation, first find out what motivated people in making certain decisions.
• Do not condemn new parents, avoid a harsh assessment of their behavior, appearance, profession, life.
• Try to be polite, attentive, remember about mutual assistance.

Parents should respect their child's choices. Try to maintain marriage and family relations, not provoke quarrels between spouses. It is wise and tactful to suggest a way out of conflict situations inevitable in marriage. Refrain from harsh statements, categorical judgments.

The appearance of the child

It is very important for a young family to form a comfortable marriage and family relationship. The bottom should be comfortable for both spouses. This is a trusting relationship, conflict-free communication, the ability to be understanding and attentive.

Having a child is a difficult period in the life of a family. Pregnancy with women's whims, irritability, mood swings brings the first dissonance to the usual idyll. Understanding and patience will help spouses maintain good family relationships.

With the advent of the baby, the whole habitual way changes. Night vigils, crying, childhood illnesses are an occasion to acquire new skills and knowledge. The responsibility that has fallen on the husband for material and moral well-being often causes anger and denial in the young spouse, a desire to start a new, calm life. Postpartum depression, fear for the baby's health make the young wife focus only on the child.

Calm acceptance of the new role (mom and dad) will allow young parents to come to a consensus. Distribution of responsibilities, endurance will help to overcome difficulties, preserve family relationships. And children who grow up in love and joy become calm, self-confident adults.

Family traditions

It is important for a family to have common memories and traditions. They promote cohesion, friendly relationships. These can be picnics for the whole family. Or a joint annual vacation. If parents and their adult children live in different areas or cities, there is a need for the emergence of such traditions.

General holidays and birthdays are held in high spirits. The whole family gathers together, congratulating the heroes of the day, decorating the room for the celebration. Gifts are a great excuse to rebuild broken family relationships, apologize or forgive relatives. All troubles and misunderstandings are forgotten in the cheerful whirlwind of the holiday.

If parents and grown-up children live together, sharing a meal can become a nightly tradition. Leisurely conversations over a cup of tea, discussion of plans for the future. In this case, the development of family relations, common traditions contribute to the creation of friendly ties between parents, children and grandchildren.

Family development stages

Almost all families face difficulties. A certain crisis is coming. Both marriage and family relationships are changing, reaching a new level. The main stages of development occur depending on the level of maturity of the spouses.

• The first year of family life. To be able to find compromises, to yield to each other. To adapt, to look for a convenient form of existence together.
• Birth of a child. Develop comfortable methods of interaction with each other and with the child. Awareness of their parental position.
• 3-5 years of family life. The child is growing up, the woman goes to work. Distribution of responsibilities in the family. New forms of interaction, where two working spouses, and responsibility and childcare still remain.
• 8-15 years of family life. A familiar, familiar way of doing things is boring. Accumulated problems, mutual grievances. Petty nagging and annoyance get in the way of a good relationship.
• 20 years of family life. Risk of cheating. The emergence of a new family and children (usually with a husband). Reassessment of values ​​and summing up the first results of life. The desire to change everything, to start over.
• Grown up children, retirement. No one to care about, empty house, loneliness. Search for new interests. Rebuilding relationships with a spouse and adult children.

Overcoming conflict situations

Family conflicts are inevitable. They occur on the basis of everyday life, due to a different worldview, rejection of any decisions. Conflict can close a marriage or destroy it. It is important to maintain the norms of family relations, to correctly build even unpleasant situations. The culture of communication, tact, respect will help to overcome the conflict, understand the reasons for its occurrence and get out of it, without infringing on anyone's rights. There are 4 main ways to resolve a dispute:

1. Smoothing the conflict - negating a controversial situation. Calm waiting for the end of the quarrel. Ability to forget and forgive unpleasant moments.

2. Finding a compromise- the ability to find a way out of the situation. Analyze the cause of the conflict, express your point of view. Find convenient ways to a peaceful life, without infringing on dignity.

3. Confrontation- each of the parties to the conflict insists on its own point of view. Needs and feelings are ignored. Husband and wife drift apart.

4. Persuasion- one of the spouses insists on his point of view, motivating with various reasons.

In any case, the psychology of family relations recommends a peaceful solution to the conflict. You should not bring him to physical violence, aggression.

Mutual understanding in the family

If there is no mutual understanding in the family, the spouses begin to move away from each other. The inability to express your point of view can result in misunderstanding, resentment, quarrels. In order not to bring the family to a scandal or divorce, you should reconsider your habits. Both sides are necessarily involved in this. Spouses must learn to find a common language so as not to bring the relationship to a critical point. Therefore, you need:

• Avoid being categorical.
• Do not consider only your point of view to be correct.
• Do not be indifferent to the hobbies (hobbies) of the second half.
• Eliminate suspicion.
• Avoid harsh, harsh language.

Divorce

Relationship problems, quarrels with children, fear of responsibility are frustrating. Quite often, modern family relationships end in divorce. Most men and women prefer to live in a guest marriage, not to have children.

There are situations when it is impossible to forgive a soul mate. Disappointment in a loved one can affect your entire subsequent life. Cheating, physical or emotional abuse in the family lead to divorce.

The main victims are children. They love their parents, sometimes in spite of everything. The feeling of uselessness, the feeling of being rejected, can haunt the child for a long time. You should be very careful. Patiently explain that the relationship between adults is changing, but love for the child remains.

Former spouses mistakenly believe that after a divorce, life will change dramatically for the better. Unfortunately, the reasons that provoked a divorce can affect your future life. Find out what personal habits or attitudes influenced the dissolution of the marriage. Try to avoid similar mistakes in the future.

Secrets of a Happy Family

Happy family life, relationships are built by both spouses. Both husband and wife are guilty of the causes of quarrels and conflicts. Do not create illusions, idealize marriage. A family is always a problem, crisis moments, resentment. It is necessary to learn to forgive each other, to treat habits and beliefs with understanding and patience.

A happy family solves the problems that have arisen together, together. Spouses learn to find compromises. The secret of happiness is not in avoiding conflicts, but in their awareness and peaceful resolution. Do not hold back the grievances, but talk more and try to understand another point of view. Quarrel, swear, but always return to peace and harmony in the family.

Only help to each other, patience will help to overcome misunderstanding. In a happy family, care and respect come first. This is a daily work for the common good. Warm praise from a spouse, kindness, compassion help people to overcome difficult life situations.

Do not overprotect children. They, too, must learn from their own mistakes. Show initiative and independence. Nevertheless, help and mutual assistance will become the guarantor of happy family relationships.

More often we all walk together, relax. Go out into nature or have a picnic. General overcoming of difficulties, joint fun and joy will hold the family together for many years.

Family for any person is of great importance, since it is the basis of his whole life.

Family relationships can not always develop well. There are various ways to solve the problem.

Concept

What is family relationships?

Family relationships- This is interaction between people who are members of the same family on the basis of family or marital ties.

The most important types of family relationships are interactions between husband and wife, between parents and children.

Every family is small socio-psychological group, which has its own characteristics.

The nature of intra-family relations depends on many factors: the level of education of family members, the degree of trust in each other, the psychological characteristics of the participants in the relationship, the degree of emotional closeness, etc.

Psychology

The psychology of family interpersonal relations provides for the analysis of not only the relationship between husband and wife, but the features of the interaction between parents and children.

Between husband and wife

From a social and legislative point of view, in our country, a man and a woman are recognized as a family. only if there is an official marriage.

From a psychological point of view, the situation is different.

Often people who are officially registered with each other make a decision about impossibility of maintaining relations and stop running a common household.

Separate living, a separate budget and a complete lack of common interests indicate in this case the absence of a family. Moreover, from the point of view of the law, a man and a woman are spouses.

There is also a downside, when a man and a woman have a common life, common children, jointly solve all issues and at the same time are not official spouses.

In this case, they themselves consider themselves a family, but from the point of view of the state they are not.

If we consider the concept of family not as a social unit of society, but as a union of people close to each other, then a family will mean a man and a woman who are in stable relationships and consider each other a family.

Between parents and children

The main function of the family is birth and upbringing of offspring.

Tasks for parents after the birth of children:

• upbringing;
• providing educational opportunities;
• provision of material goods;
• spiritual, aesthetic, moral development of children;
• providing emotional, psychological support;
• protection of the interests of children.

Children throughout their life in the parental family adopt the habits, attitudes and model of relationships between parents. The presence of serious problems in the family, conflicts between spouses reflected negatively for all the subsequent lives of children.

The task of parents is to demonstrate correct behavior that will serve as an example for the younger generation.

Often as children get older, parent-child relationships are undergoing changes: coldness, detachment appears. Most often, families encounter such problems during adolescence in children.

The formation of their own ideas and views, the emergence of new interests can lead to the denial of the values ​​inculcated by their parents by children. The task of parents during this period is to overcome the difficulties that arise, to build a dialogue with children.

Parental functions change significantly when children reach adulthood - communication is established as equals as children become independent members of society.

The situation takes on the opposite character when the parents reach old age. During this period, the parents themselves become dependent on their children, as they need help and support.

Styles

The following common ones can be distinguished:

Intimate relationship

Intimate relations between spouses play a huge role in the well-being of the family... Most divorces occur precisely because of the appearance of problems in the intimate sphere, which often lead to a whole range of mutual claims and grievances.

Intimate problems usually arise in families after several years of marriage, when the spouses, under the influence of a large number of everyday problems, cease to be interested in each other.

In place of love and attraction comes a habit that makes partners and friends of spouses.

Successful family relationships can only develop for those couples who have initial compatibility in the intimate sphere and make efforts to maintain interest in each other in the process of family life.

Family relationship

This is the relationship between close people who have become relatives to each other as a result of married marriages or on the basis of consanguinity.

In case of consanguinity, people who have a common ancestor are recognized as relatives: parents and children, brothers and sisters, uncles and aunts with nephews, grandparents with grandchildren, etc.

At the conclusion of marriages, the inherent kinship relations arise when the blood relatives of the spouses become members of the same family: father-in-law and mother-in-law with daughter-in-law, father-in-law and mother-in-law with son-in-law, brother-in-law, sister-in-law, etc.

Emotional

Emotional relationships in the family are of great importance, because they determine the level of satisfaction of the spouses with their marriage and the level of comfort and security that are provided to children. Relationships between loved ones should be built on trust, respect and support.

It has long been proven that people raised in families with a poor emotional climate are unlikely to be able to build strong relationships in the future.

Any emotional problems in the family (parents, negative habits of parents, excessive demands on children, lack of mutual support and trust between family members) negatively affect the psyche of the child, his character and self-confidence.

Democratic

Equality and partnership between spouses, between parents and children - the key to healthy family relationships.

Despite the fact that in any family there is an unspoken leader, and children must initially obey their parents all contacts can be based on respect for each other's interests, mutual assistance and support.

The full participation of all family members in solving key issues allows not only avoiding conflicts, but also uniting everyone with a single goal.

Affiliate

Husband and wife are above all partners.

Moreover, in the process of marriage, it is the roles of partners that begin to prevail in the relationship of spouses, pushing the relationship of lovers into the background.

Spouses, being partners, solve a whole range of tasks: raising children, maintaining material well-being, organizing everyday life, supporting each other in solving professional problems, etc.

After the baby is born

Birth of a child- a transitional period for any family, which often becomes the cause of the onset of a crisis in family life.

With the birth of a child, spouses lose the opportunity to fully spend time together and manage their lives, the level of material well-being decreases, women often face postpartum depression.

It is important for spouses to go through a difficult period together after the birth of a child and focus on getting positive emotions from communicating with a new family member, from participating in his upbringing.

Secrets, secrets and rules of an ideal family life

The basic principles on which the life of truly happy families is based:

1. Mutual respect and trust. This applies not only to spouses, but also to parents with children. In a family where everyone respects each other, listens to everyone's opinion and is always ready to help, conflicts and misunderstandings cannot arise.
2. A man's ability to take responsibility. The man is the head of the family. Currently, this role often belongs to a woman, and most conflicts arise precisely because a man ceases to be responsible for the family, and a woman takes on non-female responsibilities.
3. A woman's aspiration to be a mother and mistress... The main purpose of a woman is to maintain the comfort of home and raise children.

   Family life should be organized in such a way that a woman always has enough time and energy to go home, for her husband, and for children.

4. The ability of spouses to distract themselves from everyday life. Often, the relationship ends due to the cooling of a man and a woman to each other, caused by the departure of romance and passion from their relationship. Spouses should always remember that they are not only partners and parents, but also loving people. The ability to find time for leisure activities together is an important factor in maintaining a relationship.

Stages

Family relationships go through the following stages:

Diagnostics - methods

Sometimes family conflicts become serious when their participants cannot resolve the situation on their own.

Research and analysis of family relationships will identify existing problems and determine ways to resolve them. The main directions of diagnostics:

1. Study of the system of distribution of roles in the family. The specifics of building communications in a particular family, the distribution of functions, the emotional climate, and existing problems are considered.
2. Study of the characteristics of the relationship between parents and children. There is an identification of violations in the upbringing process.
3. Study of matrimonial relationships. Assessment of the degree of satisfaction with marriage, the level of conflict in a couple, existing contradictions.

Causes of the crisis

Why is family relations deadlocked or cold? Main reasons, by which family relations can come to a standstill:

How to fix the situation?

How to improve family relationships if they have cooled down? You can successfully get out of this situation by observing the following advice from psychologists:

1. To take the responsibility... Each spouse must realize his mistakes and draw appropriate conclusions. Acknowledging problems and wanting to work on them can lead to significant change.
2. Discuss all problems. It is important not to carry resentment in yourself. It only makes it worse. A constant open dialogue is the key to understanding in the family.
3. Improve your sex life. Family relationships will never be cloudless if there are problems in the intimate sphere.

   It is important to make an effort to solve problems in this area and exclude thoughts of cheating.

4. Find common interests, hobbies... If partners have nothing in common, they will never be one. It is important to find some good occupation, a hobby that will unite the spouses.

Thus, family relationships play a key role in the formation of personality and its development... The well-being of a family directly depends on the desire of all its members for mutual respect and support.

Psychology of relationships between men and women in the family:

Anton and Vlad

Anton: I really like in Vlad that he knows how to think critically, not to follow the crowd. Now everyone is overwhelmed by the passion for selfies, and Vlad is indifferent to him. He can observe the process detachedly, think - why he needs it, look for some meanings. This impresses me about him. He is versatile, creative, for some time he went to the studio of theatrical skills. Sometimes he and I try to speak to each other in English.
Vlad: I play games in English. And at school, English is boring. I like to study everything myself. I would like to learn how to cook. I have all my favorite dishes. I just don't like liver and semolina.

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Victoria and Elena

Lena: We meet, we walk. We go to the store together. I need Wikap to help me with the calculations. I don't know much about money, I don't think well. She explains to me, I remember. If I have money, I talk about this to Vika. Vika says: "Don't waste them, we'll go shopping together."
Victoria: I feel that Lena is my close person, an important part of my life. By communicating with her, I learned to accept the situation and not overestimate expectations. Because when you have some expectations and they are not fulfilled, disappointment always comes. I understand - if you have lived in such conditions for eighteen years, you cannot change in such a short period. Even when the whole circle has changed dramatically!

Photo: Alexander Vasyukovich | Text: Lyudmila Drik Material provided by the "Names" project

Tatiana and Lera

Tatyana: At first, such communication seems strange, artificial: you need to meet several times a week, look for common topics ... And now I just like to communicate with Lerka! Our relationship quickly grew into a friendship, very natural. It's a miracle that we found each other! Our pair is hitting the bull's-eye.
Lera: Tatiana is my real friend. Of course, I had friends in the orphanage, but first one friend left for Italy, then the second ... There were practically no close friends left. In the sixth grade we were transferred to a regular school, it was difficult to adapt. Relations with "domestic children" did not work out. We could not understand each other. I honestly don't know why. I think they despised us, orphans, a little.

Photo: Alexander Vasyukovich | Text: Lyudmila Drik Material provided by the "Names" project

Marina and Veronica

Marina: I have incredible respect for the Threads of Friendship team! The project has a very thorough approach to the selection of pairs: from the moment of passing the training to the formation of a pair, it can take a year or even more. Curators make sure that the adult and the teenager match each other as much as possible. Regular meetings are held for mentors. Formally, the foster caregiver must find a minimum of two hours per week for the child. But our relationship with Veronica quickly grew into a real friendship, so there is no need to keep track of time.
Veronica: Communication with Marina radically changed me: I learned to be open, became more confident, courageous, purposeful. Thanks to her, I thought about entering a university. I graduated from the Kedyshko College, received the specialty of an inlaid artist on wood, and now I entered the Faculty of Philosophy and Social Sciences at BSU. I will study psychology. Maybe one day I will join the team of some social project like the "Threads of Friendship". After all, psychological help is needed by everyone who is in a difficult life situation.

Photo: Alexander Vasyukovich | Text: Lyudmila Drik Material provided by the "Names" project

Vera and Nikita

Nikita: When I started communicating with Vera, I grew wiser. I began to react to many things in a different way. Vera tells how to live. We were also taught at school, but it's hard to be alone. I have already learned how to cook soup, cook pasta like a navy. I myself buy potatoes, pasta, carrots, cabbage, soup set. Vera sent me pictures of how to do everything.
Faith: There are times when you have to rush to his aid with a saber at the ready! Children like Nikita trust everyone. I say: "Nikita, do not give your passport to anyone!" He did not give. But the other day I pulled out of him that they took him by the hand, brought him to the office of a cellular operator and issued two cards for him. In the office, it turned out that not two, but four. It turns out that they can be used for illegal IP telephony, hacking. We closed these cards. But he did not tell me about it right away, but after a month and a half!

Photo: Alexander Vasyukovich | Text: Lyudmila Drik Material provided by the project "