What to do if parents beat a child. Parents hitting a child

Your son or daughter told you with horror that a classmate often comes to school covered in beatings from their parents. How can you, as a caring person, help someone else's child? Psychologists, teachers and lawyers answer

Adults beat children. Unfortunately, this happens. Do you know that they beat a child and you can’t do anything? You can. By ignoring evil, we ourselves become evil. That's why.

“Settle” on your own? Forget it!

Other parents in the class should not have to deal with aggressor parents on their own, says Alla Burlaka, head of the Children's Service of the Obolon Regional State Administration in Kyiv. If you find out that a student in class may be experiencing domestic violence, then follow a clear algorithm:

“This can be a written message, including a collective letter or an oral appeal, to which Service employees must respond urgently, within one working day,” explained Ilona Eleneva, director of the International Public Organization “Social Initiatives for Occupational Safety and Health” (LHSI).

The employees of the Center for Family and Women's Affairs of the Desnyansky District of the capital are also convinced that parents of children in any educational institution should not “deal” with an aggressor father or mother on their own. “The intervention of class parents without the help of specialists will lead to aggravation and trauma for all participants,” the Center warned. Specialists of the Service, headed by Alla Burlaka, listed the signs by which one can suspect that a child is experiencing cruelty:

• at primary school age: the child may try to hide the causes of injuries, be lonely, not make friends, be afraid to go home after school;

• in adolescence: a student may run away from home, make suicide attempts, exhibit antisocial behavior, use drugs or alcohol

Service employees have different methods of influence - they can even take a child away from the family. But more often they try to do without this extreme. “We are having conversations with such parents. So that they have the opportunity to see their mistakes and reconsider their attitude. We want them to understand that an aggressive approach will not lead to good things. And you need to change something in yourself. For the sake of the child, among other things,” says Alla Burlaka.

“It often happens that parents beat because they themselves don’t know how to raise differently. It happens that a child has a complex or explosive character. Parents may, for various reasons, be at a loss and begin to beat the child out of despair. Therefore, it is necessary for parents to be able to master a different model of behavior. The first step for them is the realization: “I don’t want to do this, I want to stop.” Maybe offer them anger management training or teach them how to control destructive emotions.” — Says Yulia Zavgorodnyaya, psychologist at the Kyiv City Center for Social Services for Families, Children and Youth.

"Stand on ceremony"? No, call the police!

Public censure will not achieve any benefit, believes Vladimir Spivakovsky, founder of the Grand Lyceum. He suggests calling the police immediately if adults suddenly become aware that a schoolchild is being beaten in the family.

“In our time and in our society, moralizing is no longer in fashion... “Call the father for a conversation”, “help the child”, “get into the situation”... - all these are already rudiments of the “scoop”, when such situations were sorted out at meetings, and the perpetrators expelled from the party,” the president of the Grand corporation is sure. — In modern society, especially in the West, the issue is resolved quickly, without nerves and effectively. Beating is an act of hooliganism or crime. If so, then we need to call the police and draw up a report.”

Is it dangerous?

Is this situation traumatic for other children in the class? It will happen if you do nothing! - noted Inna Morozova. Inna says that it is important for parents to talk about how they can help their classmate - support, invite them to visit after school or go for a walk together, try to talk with him.

Lawyer's opinion

Parents beat their children, often even when they understand the harm of this method. Often this happens in a fit of anger, when it seems that it is impossible to cope and explain anything to him otherwise. However, after the passions have already subsided, as a rule, guilt and shame arise for the medieval punishment committed. In order to understand your unconscious attraction to harsh punishment of a child, you need to understand the reasons that gradually lead to why parents beat their children.

Children have been beaten throughout the centuries. Before the reign of Catherine the Great, even the children of nobles were flogged, and there is no need to say what they did with peasant and bourgeois children. In the same Great Britain, official punishment of children with canings was only recently abolished. In the post-Soviet space, children were punished by beating unofficially, but also very often. One hand is enough to count the families in which the child was never touched.

Beating your children was considered indecent, shameful, but a necessary condition of education. And this tradition was passed on from generation to generation. No wonder that even now hitting a child is not such a terrible thing. Moreover, with age, some men have the feeling that they could have been beaten more often in childhood. Some people even experience gratitude at an older age. As a result, of course, children who have suffered violence experience a certain temptation for spanking and believe that it is right. However, immediately after the execution itself, it is difficult to imagine a satisfied, beaten teenager or child.

Beating to a greater extent is not pain, but most often humiliation and powerlessness. These experiences are deeply driven into the subconscious, but nevertheless form certain unconscious complexes and fears, which subsequently interfere with establishing contacts with others and form the basis for low self-esteem.

Historically, it has been difficult to refuse to hit a child. The temptation to punish by hitting is best dealt with by those parents who are aware of the humiliation suffered in childhood during beatings and endure as long as possible, looking for other methods of influence.

Another way to overcome historical pressure is to talk about this topic with your parents, understand them and forgive them. Forgiveness greatly facilitates perception and helps you see the difference between your past and your childhood present. It is important that parents beat their child not because they thirst for blood and punishment, but because they otherwise cannot convey their concern and love and cannot protect the child from himself.

“Otherwise he doesn’t understand”

This belief is quite persistent and firmly entrenched in the parental consciousness, and appealing to it is as easy as shelling pears. But most often, such a statement is resorted to by the most impatient and uncontrollable parents, who begin to beat the child without even giving him time to understand his mistakes and rethink his behavior. A child's perception is often chaotic and chaotic, and in his behavior he is guided more by emotions than by common sense. In this regard, patience with the little person should be maximum. Most often, those fathers and mothers who were not given time to think and regulate their behavior are incapable of doing this. Therefore, such a concept as patience is not only rejected by them, but also causes indignation. Beating a child seems to be the only right decision, because patience and other methods do not help, but in fact, such parents simply did not have the opportunity in their childhood to check whether it works or not.

To overcome this reason, your own strength is not enough. You need to train for a long time on yourself first. Allowing yourself to do everything at your own pace, and only then trying to convey something to your child.

The conflict within the parent's personality is so deep and firmly rooted that words often fail to reach them. As a rule, such fathers quickly become emotional and militantly defend their sacred right to spank. However, this is a process that acts more like a stopper and blocker, i.e. the child becomes able to unlearn something, but at the same time loses flexibility, patience, the ability to mature emotionally, resolve conflicts without assault, etc. In other cases, spanked children block their spontaneity, intuition, creative thinking and much more, withdrawing into the world of their own fantasies.

If we talk about ways to explain to a child, then the ability to demand that he perform certain duties every day and encourage his success each time comes to the fore.

Children learn best from the experiences of their parents. Just not the one they hear from his lips, but the one they directly see with their own eyes. And if a parent himself does not know how to fulfill his duties thoroughly, and is negligent in his work and home, a teenager and a junior schoolchild will simply copy this way of life and behavior. Punishing him for this, let alone beating him, is not a solution to the situation. Professor Preobrazhensky in such cases said that the devastation is in the minds and that if you hit, you need to hit yourself on the head, trying to knock the crap out of there.

Children, whether you want it or not, do not have to be what their mothers and fathers want them to be. This often causes indignation, especially when a headstrong child begins to insist on his own and be capricious, but in this case he behaves naturally and defends his interest. This is important to understand when deciding to punish him.

"I don't have enough patience"

This call is more suitable for those mothers and fathers who really have a serious level of patience and have tried a lot in an attempt to curb the behavior of their child. For them, the act of punishment is a manifestation of despair that finds no other way out. Sometimes such parents don’t really know how to hit a child - for them it comes out somehow blurred and ineffective.

In this case, it is optimal to contact a psychologist, psychiatrist, neurologist, who could give individual advice, explain the child’s behavior, and tell with examples how best to achieve what he wants.

In some cases, it is possible that you should not delay visiting a doctor. It happens that parents can see that there are serious problems with their child, which they cannot solve and do not know how to solve. But at the same time, shame and guilt prevent them from turning to a specialist. On their own, they are ready to try thousands of remedies, reading them in various smart books and the Internet, but they do not give results. Then powerlessness and fear of exposure can turn into aggression towards the child. Beaten up, but misunderstood, he continues to be left alone with his problems until something pushes his parent to attract experienced people from the outside.

Additionally, patience is best honed when parents are able to share their concerns and experiences. Various parenting courses will become a platform for this. Often the reasons for anger and aggression towards a child can be minor reasons that can be discussed among equally unhappy and worried mothers and fathers. As a rule, if you share situations, it is much easier to calm your soul and nerves.

Aggression displacement

You should be careful about your ways of dealing with aggression. There is a well-known joke that after a boss yelled at a subordinate, he criticized his wife at home, who, in turn, flogged the children, and they beat the dog. This story suggests that anger that goes to the wrong place seeks a way out by any means. Taking out your anger on children is, unfortunately, not uncommon. Children are powerless, weak, defenseless and know how to forgive. Inept parents often beat such children in order to unknowingly let off steam and then receive forgiveness for it. Once such a situation occurs, it is not a problem, but often in many such a model is fixed, sometimes turning into a nightmare for the child. In this case, the parent needs to take responsibility for his aggression and learn to find other ways to express it.

When Punishments Are Necessary

In some cases, spanking may sometimes be unavoidable. Parents often ask whether they ever have the right to hit their children. The fact is that lack of attention to a child’s actions is the same problem as their punishment. Not responding to someone who is defiant, tactless, or indifferent is not solving the problem, but rather prolonging it. Any parent should have plenty of ways to respond to such behavior without assault. Also, cruelty and excessive greed cannot be left unpunished. In this case, the beating parent can become a certain stopper if they want to repeat the act, but they still cannot do without talking with the children.

No matter how excited modern teachers are about the fact that you should never hit a child, nevertheless, perhaps no one has been able to follow this line of behavior to the end. In general, hitting a child once is not a problem. No one is immune from an outburst of anger or rage, and probably even some ideal teacher will be forced to admit that once he did raise a hand against one of his children or threaten him. But, on the other hand, this is not at all an excuse for all those who are accustomed to punishing children regularly.

The optimal punishment for children of any age is always to deprive them of something. Threatening, beating and flogging children is the result of one’s personal powerlessness, despair and lack of personal experience of patience with oneself, and therefore the inability to apply it to a child.

It is probably impossible to allow a child to be beaten; most likely, you can stop blaming yourself or reproaching yourself if this happened once. If this happens all the time, then this is a reason to start thinking about your beliefs and your worth as a parent.

Catherine the Second, who abolished the flogging of nobles at the end of the 18th century, contributed to the emergence of the first unflogged generation, among whom were Pushkin, Lermontov, Gogol, Griboyedov and in general the entire flower of the then nation, and this is a good reason to think.

According to UNICEF, 67% of Kazakh parents use violence in raising their children, and 75% support corporal punishment. We spoke to three heroes who have experienced domestic physical violence over the years.

Valentina, 22 years old:

I always loved my father more, he never beat me. The main aggressor was always the mother.

I remember all the cases, but one in particular. I was about 11 or 12 years old. I came home from school and immediately went to the shower; my mother was in a terrible mood that day. I knew that she would beat me because I got a C in math and stood in the shower for a very long time. When I came out, she grabbed my hair, twisted it around her fist and slammed me against the door. I fell and my nose started bleeding.

I broke out and locked myself in the closet, and my mother asked me to open it, promised that she wouldn’t beat me and apologized.

When I opened the door, she grabbed me again and dragged me into the hall, hitting me on my legs, back and head. I cried and begged her to stop, promised that I wouldn’t do this again, that I would try harder.

That day was the first time she called me a whore.

She beat me every time she was out of sorts, when I came with a bad grade, when she argued with dad or was offended by him. She said that he and I were very similar, that I was a pig just like him. She probably did this because she suspected her father of cheating and took it out on me.

I never talked about it or asked for help, I didn’t even tell my dad. One day I told a friend everything, but he just laughed and said that my mother is a wonderful woman and does everything to make me happy. I think it was because we were a very wealthy family, and he believed that such families had no problems.

I fought back for the first time when I was 18 because I was no longer afraid of her.

That day I bit her hand when she tried to grab my hair again. The beatings stopped immediately, but I realized that I would never be happy if I didn’t leave her. At the age of 20, I moved to another country, started living with my boyfriend and got married.

Now my relationship with my mother has improved, we communicate on the phone. But when I come to her, I only think about when we will fight, today or the next day.

I don't think about children yet, but I hope that I will become a good mother for them and will never cause them mental or physical pain. Although you never know about this in advance. It’s unlikely that my mother dreamed of beating me when she gave birth. It seems to me that deep down she is ashamed.

Maria, 18 years old:

It started in elementary school, the first time I was beaten until I was bruised with a jump rope. They could throw various things at me, knives, forks and other utensils.

I lived in fear, I was even given a choice, asking what object I would like to be beaten with.

When they beat me, I tried to scream as hard as I could so that the neighbors would hear and someone would come to help, but it was useless.

However, I strived to be better in their eyes. She studied everything that could generate income and started working early to provide for herself and her interests.

When my father was angry, he tried to hurt me not only physically, but also mentally. Between blows, he screamed that I had betrayed him, that he would never trust me. I always waited patiently for him to get tired; it would be pointless to fight back.

My parents always said that it was all my fault, that I deserved more than I got and that I should say “thank you” for mercy. This pleasure in their eyes scared me even more than the actions.

The beatings stopped when I turned 17, after countless suicide attempts and threats from the school to terminate my parental rights.

I still live with them, pretend that everything is fine, and don’t run into conflict. My therapist said that you don't have to love your parents. I don't love them, but I appreciate their financial contribution to me. I didn't receive anything else.

Due to physical and moral violence, for a long time I was wary of people and did not trust anyone. I was always expecting an attack or trick from people. Now I am tormented by convulsions and hallucinations.

In the future, I don't want parents to touch my children. They will never approach them. Let them watch, that’s why they came up with videos, video chats and Skype. My children will not learn about domestic violence from personal experience. I definitely won’t follow in my parents’ footsteps.

I'm ashamed that I don't know what family is. I have not formed a family model. Many of my peers are in relationships or getting married, and I am running from it. I never asked my parents for more than they could give me, I never asked for the impossible. I just wanted to be needed and loved.

Aitolkyn, 24 years old:

As a child, I lived quite peacefully, but when I started adolescence, my parents reacted very violently to manifestations of my character.

When I was 13 years old, my mother beat me for what she thought was a short skirt. In fact, it was just above the knee. She brutally beat me for one and a half to two hours, repeating at the same time that I was a prostitute. The reasons for the beatings were always different: she didn’t clean the house, the onions burned, she simply might not have been in the mood.

She said that if she knew what I would grow up to be, she would have had an abortion, that it would be better for me to die.

Occasionally, two or three times over the years, they asked me for forgiveness, but it was insincere, just to ease my conscience. At the same time, they told me that it was my own fault that I was beaten.

Judging objectively, I was a good child. I studied well, didn’t go out, talked to good kids, didn’t use anything. I always got it for having my own opinion.

When I was in school, I was beaten once or twice a month. The older I got, the less often they beat me, but they did it more cruelly. Dad usually didn’t interfere, but sometimes he tried to stop. The last couple of years I joined myself.

Before, I didn’t resist, I just endured and asked to stop. Naturally, no one listened to me. When I was 19, I started screaming so that they wouldn’t come near me, defending myself with my hands. One day I even called the police because there was no one to protect me. For this, my parents kicked me out of the house and said that I was no longer their daughter.

The last time I was beaten was in the summer. After that, I left home, and when I returned, my mother asked for forgiveness. This never happened again. Now our relationship is stable. If some kind of quarrel starts, then I just go to my place.

I am quite nervous by nature, many years of beatings and terrible treatment towards me aggravated this.

Previously, if people next to me simply raised their hands, I covered my head with my hands - a reflex. I still flinch from any touch.

I am not confident in myself and constantly think that something is wrong with me, but I try not to dwell on it and move on with my life.

I know for sure that I will never hit my children. I don't want to continue this horror.

Zhibek Zholdasova, Candidate of Medical Sciences, psychiatrist-psychotherapist:

I have many patients who say they were abused as children. Usually adults come to me. If teenagers, then older, 17-18 years old. Children cannot go to a psychotherapist because they are constantly under the control of adults.

At school or kindergarten, such children are easy to identify. At any rise in voice, at any gesture or wave of the hand, they immediately curl up into a ball, want to hide, cover their heads with their hands. You can immediately understand that most likely this child is being beaten. Many of my patients who have experienced physical abuse behave this way into adulthood.

At the same time, if girls are emotional and sensitive, then sooner or later they will tell someone about what happened to them. Boys are more likely to hide it. In general, they go to psychologists and psychotherapists much less often. The majority of my patients are women and girls.

It happens that violence has a very negative impact on people’s future lives.

The behavior pattern is reinforced in childhood, and the person gets used to being constantly beaten. Often he then finds himself an equally abusive partner.

So girls marry men who also beat them.
As they grow up and become parents, they may begin to beat their children, thinking: “My father beat me, and I will beat you. How are you better than me? A learned behavior pattern is so strong that it can be quite difficult to change.

Therefore, we need to talk about this. Reminding that there are other ways to educate, that physical violence is not the answer.

Perhaps not all is well in these parents’ lives. There is some kind of internal tension, a feeling of dissatisfaction, complexes, which causes the level of anger and aggression to increase. And this aggression always needs to be poured out on someone.

Physical violence in the family occurs not because the child is bad, but because the parent himself has a psychological defect.

And teenagers who are physically abused need to contact a school psychologist; they have nowhere else to go. We need to categorically raise the level of school psychologists. Only a few school psychologists have any techniques to help them.

Zulfiya Baysakova, director of the crisis center for victims of domestic violence in Almaty:

According to the legislation of the Republic of Kazakhstan, minors cannot be placed in any government institutions without the permission of the court. In our crisis center for victims of domestic violence, parents are accommodated, that is, mothers with children.

The crisis center provides only correspondence counseling by telephone. You need to understand that any work carried out with minors must be done with the permission of guardians or parents. This makes it difficult to provide face-to-face counseling to minors on many issues. That's why we advise teenagers by calling 150, which operates 24 hours a day and on an anonymous basis. All calls are free.

Unfortunately, in Kazakhstan we do not have a single program that would be aimed at reducing and managing the level of aggression, so we observe unreasonable aggression and inappropriate behavior on the part of many people. NGOs and our crisis center are trying to develop programs to work with bullies to teach people to manage their emotions and not be violent towards anyone.

Parental violence against minors is a crime.

It is very important to correctly identify it, so we conduct seminars so that specialists working with children can clearly identify physical, psychological, economic, and sexual violence both by external signs and by the level of anxiety and fear of children.

Socially oriented work with family members is very poorly developed in Kazakhstan. Today, all work is built only on helping a victim of domestic violence, for example, a teenager, and little work is done with parents. They are held accountable, and that’s where all the work ends.

The best way to help minors is to invite them to call the 150 helpline, where psychological consultants can provide professional assistance.

All this happens anonymously and confidentially, which is very important for minors because they are usually intimidated and do not know who to turn to. The next tool could be school psychologists, who should work in every school. How well they can work is another question.

After collecting evidence, parents are brought to administrative or criminal liability, depending on the degree of bodily harm. If the commission for minors considers that it is necessary to deprive parental rights, custody of the child is transferred to government agencies, and then to individuals who can work in this direction.

If you are experiencing domestic violence, you can always call the helpline 150, where they can help you.

Children from disadvantaged families probably wonder what to do if parents beat you? Who can children who are beaten by their parents or relatives turn to?

What should a child do? Where to hide? What to do if parents beat you? First of all, you need to find yourself an ally. If your father offends you, you should talk to your mother, ask her for protection and help. But if in response you hear calls to be patient, because there is nowhere to go, nothing to live on, etc., then you need to know where to turn for help. Otherwise, the worst may happen. The situation is more serious, if parents protect each other, it means they are at the same time. Contact other relatives - grandparents, aunts, uncles, parents of your friends - they will tell you what to do if your parents beat you.

They can also help you over the phone. In Russia there is a single “helpline” for children 8-800-200-01-22, which you can call from both a mobile phone and a landline phone. You don't need to pay for the call and you don't have to give your name. A social worker or psychologist will talk to you, who will not only explain, but also tell you the addresses of crisis centers where you can leave your parents for a while.

If you are already an adult and your parents beat you, act on your own - contact the police, guardianship authorities, or the prosecutor's office. And if you are over 14 years old, you have the right to write a statement to the court. But in this case, you need proof - show your bruises to the doctor at the emergency room, and they will give you a certificate. Or ask witnesses, if there were any, to testify.

Write a detailed statement to the guardianship authorities about how your parents beat you. You can write a statement to the police or prosecutor's office if you do not know where the guardianship department is located in your city. If you do not want to return home, write in your application so that you can be sent to a crisis center. But you need to make such a statement only if your parents really beat you, and not in order to simply take revenge on them for some kind of insult.

Based on your application, the guardianship authorities will begin to work together with the police. First, your parents will have a conversation with a psychologist and a local police officer, who will tell them about the possible consequences for parents who beat their children. If the situation does not change, the guardianship authorities may file a claim for restriction or deprivation of parental rights. You will be taken away from your parents and placed under the guardianship of relatives, in a foster family, or an orphanage. But all rights to part of your apartment will remain with you, and upon reaching 18 years of age, you can dispose of it at your own discretion.

If only one of the parents raised his hand against you, he alone may be evicted from the apartment. Parents who hit their children may face criminal charges. The trial will last a long time, and during this time you will be able to live in a crisis center, where they provide assistance to children who find themselves in difficult situations.

If you have already left home because you can no longer endure beatings and are afraid of your parents, there are orphanages and help services in Moscow where they will definitely help you:

- “The Road to Home” is an orphanage located on the street. Profsoyuznaya, 27, building 4;
- “Children's Assistance Service” at Shokalsky Ave., 61, building 1.

Now you know, what to do if parents beat you- be sure to ask for help.

Just one “educational” blow can cause serious health problems. Increasingly, the media are talking about cases where, in the course of “upbringing,” parents who cannot control themselves maim or even kill their children.

Beating a child by his parents

Often in response to an allegation of child abuse parents motivate their actions by the accepted method of education. And they refer to traditions accepted in the family, according to which disciplinary measures against the offender may involve physical punishment.

They consider torn hair, bruises and hematomas to be the norm. However, the law, which has become quite friendly to spanking on the street or at home, is still strict in relation to parents who regularly beat their children.

For beating a minor that caused physical pain, but did not cause health problems, and compulsory community service. The fact of family relations is not significant here.

Battery is a blow inflicted intentionally that causes physical pain.

To prove the fact of beatings, a forensic expert can record:

1. bruises (usually on soft tissues);
2. bruises and bruises;
3. superficial abrasions, wounds, hematomas.

Important: Violent actions against children also include tying up, restricting freedom in a cramped enclosed space, prolonged kneeling, especially on peas (there are also those among supporters of “traditional methods of education” who use such a barbaric method of punishment).

Differences between physical abuse and torture

Education using physical force cannot be considered beating. Disciplinary measures that involve striking people for certain offenses are considered acceptable by some. Moreover, among the supporters of such methods there are even teachers and law enforcement officers.

It is believed that a child should clearly understand why this kind of punishment awaits him, and not live in constant fear that he will be hit, or even beaten.

The effectiveness of this method of education is highly questionable. If the law protects the physical integrity of citizens, then on what basis can it be violated in relation to the youngest Russians?

The usefulness of this method, which only convinces the child that the one who is stronger is right, also raises doubts. Paradox: a slap, a slap on the head, or a blow from a boss for a job done incorrectly will be perceived by any subordinate as, at best, an insult. But the same subordinate will consider it normal to hit his son for unfinished homework or a bad grade.

Supporters of physical punishment, no matter what family values ​​they refer to, are simply unable to apply other methods of education, are not smart and educated enough to establish a relationship with a child without causing him pain.

The consequences of even one blow can be very disastrous.

• The child withdraws into himself and does everything to prevent his parents from finding out about his misdeeds.
• There is growing distrust in the world, the family, and the state, which is unable to protect.
• The pain inflicted on a child in a family, in a home where he considered himself safe, makes him realize his own defenselessness against brute force and begin to either learn to respond to aggression with aggression, or to lie, dodge, hide information for which he can be punished, in any way. including illegal methods.

What is the penalty for beating children?

Many parents believe that the choice of educational measures is entirely their business. Whether or not they beat children should not be anyone's business. However, when it comes to cruelty, the law stands up to protect the interests of the child.

Moreover, punishment is different from punishment. If the mental state suffers, if the child ends up in a hospital bed, the unfortunate “educator” will also face punishment.

What laws govern it?

Reasons and motives

Among the reasons why parents physically punish a child or minor are family traditions of education, inability to cope with other methods of influence, uncontrollability of a son or daughter.

However, most often the root of the problem is the incompetence of mothers and fathers, inability to educate or unwillingness to fulfill the responsibilities of raising children. Often they take it out on children for failures at work and in their personal lives, considering them to be the culprits of all troubles.

Most often, beatings are inflicted on children under 5 years of age: the child is obviously helpless, he does not yet understand where and how to turn for help, or who to tell about the fact that he is being beaten.

Sometimes such children do not even know how to speak, or they have been told that it is shameful and forbidden to talk about such things with strangers, or minors are intimidated and are afraid of more serious punishment if they let slip about where they got the bruises.

As a rule, already at school, where children are in front of many strangers - peers, teachers, psychologists, it becomes impossible to hide the truth. Kids are already able to correctly assess the mood of their parents and the level of threat, run away, hide, and call for help.

Bruises and abrasions will certainly attract attention, and the student himself is able to talk frankly with the teacher. That is why the very facts of beatings of school-age children become known more often, but offenses and crimes against them occur less often in families.

Right to defense

Like every citizen of our country, a child has the right to protection. His interests can be represented by children’s rights ombudsmen, social educators, teachers, employees of guardianship authorities, departments for minors’ affairs and the protection of their rights,

No parent should think that the little man they born is completely theirs and they can do whatever they want with it.

Both the victim himself and neighbors and school employees can report an offense and demand the intervention of law enforcement agencies in a situation that threatens life and health.

Beaten by father

The child takes punishment from the father for granted, but what is worse is that the mother, the other person in her family, considers violence to be the norm and does not consider it necessary or is simply afraid to report the beatings. In this case, the testimony of witnesses and teachers, whose responsibilities also include protecting the child, is valuable.

Babysitter beating

It is not always possible to immediately notice the fact of beating, or even systematic beating of a child by a nanny. The baby will be afraid to say where his bruises come from; the nanny herself may intimidate him, saying that the parents will punish him in the same way for the committed act.

Important! Parents are obliged to be vigilant, pay close attention to the appearance of wounds and bruises on the child’s body, and thoroughly find out where they came from. Rough treatment of a small child is simply unacceptable.

Conclusion

Or minors should not become the norm in any family. Each parent is responsible for the life, mental and physical health of their child.

But society as a whole is responsible for each of its young citizens, so parents who are aggressors should not get away with cruelty to children, beatings and torture.