How to teach a child to eat independently and carefully - a complete guide for parents. Cutlery to help the baby

Raviya Samigullina
Game-lesson "We know how to eat neatly"

"We know how to eat well»

Lesson one

2 junior group

PURPOSE. Cultivate the ability to independently and neatly there is, sit quietly at the table, hold the spoon correctly in your hand, scoop some food into the spoon, eat from the wide end, silently.

PROGRESS OF THE GAME. The game held before lunch. The teacher sat down at the table is talking:- Look kids like me sitting: on the entire seat of the chair, the back is straight. I took bread in my left hand, and a spoon in my right hand. I put my feet under the table next to me.

The door opens, Piggy runs into the group and sits at the table and shouts, I I am hungry.

caregiver: - Piggy, you don't know how to behave at all. First, you have to knock on the door, then go in and say hello to the guys and adults. Our children know to wash their hands with soap before eating. Well, then, when you are invited, sit down at the table and start eating. Now we're all going to wash our hands before dinner. / Go to the washroom /.

Now, everyone, sit down at your tables. And you are Piggy, sit down at my steel.

Piggy starts eat without a spoon.

caregiver: Piggy, you're in a hurry again. For people like you, they wrote this rhyme:

O. DRIZ. Nose and cheeks were full.

Chin got it too

And the little finger tried a little.

They ate a little forehead with the crown,

The rest was eaten by the ears.

Educator. I told the children how to sit at the table, now I will repeat / reminds me of the rule of conduct at the table /. Then is talking:

I take an incomplete spoon so as not to spill. There is convenient from the wide edge of the spoon. /Eats several spoons/. Try to chew everything well with your mouth closed.

The children start eating. The teacher monitors how the children eat, makes the necessary comments. Piggy, also trying eat carefully.

After the children drink the compote, the teacher shows how to use the napkin correctly, thank for the food, rinse your mouth properly after eating.

Piggy. Thank you for a delicious lunch, now I know how to behave properly. Goodbye, it's time for me to go home /leaves/. The children are getting ready for bed.

We read a column by Alena, God forgive me, Vodonaeva, where she gives valuable advice about ideal relationships. In short - a girl should sacrifice herself and not be fat. Here are 7 quotes from this text: So, about beauty: yes, girls, a woman must and must be beautiful. Is always! Starting from a neat pussy in beautiful panties, ending with eating habits and how ...

We read a column by Alena, God forgive me, Vodonaeva, where she gives valuable advice about ideal relationships. In short - a girl should sacrifice herself and not be fat. Here are 7 quotes from this text:

1. 1. So, about beauty: yes, girls, a woman must and must be beautiful. Is always! Starting from a neat pussy in beautiful panties, ending with eating habits and the way she eats.

1. 1. Girls, forget the word "fart" at all. Forever! Even in the ninth month of pregnancy, you must remain a girl and poop butterflies.
   2. Your man should not know any of your physiological details if you want him to stand on you 24 hours a day and take you where he catches you. It's always on me. And after five years of marriage, he stood the same as on the first day.

1. 1. Even at the stove or with a temperature, even under a tracksuit, I always wear beautiful underwear, I am neat, flexible and light in my movements.
   2. In summary: move slowly, eat carefully, don't fart, take care of your body and the space you're in, wear nice underwear, smell delicious, speak softly. And it’s better not to say anything to him at all, just love him and suck. In any case, you definitely won’t get better from this.

1. I'm not against full, I just don't want to have a relationship with those who lead such a lifestyle. I don't want to eat belyashi with them and be inactive. I also don't want to know what they smell like. How they look in underwear and without it. I do not want to and I have a personal right to it.
2. It’s true, for example, I won’t even go swimming if there is a very large person in the water or in the pool. I'll wait until he comes out.

Growing up, the baby goes through important stages of development. At first, he holds the bottle with his own hands, but soon it is time to teach the little one to eat on his own without the help of adults. For a mother, this is a difficult and responsible process, so she will need useful tips and lessons on eating on her own.

How to understand that the child is ready to eat on his own?

It is impossible to unequivocally answer the question of at what age it is time for a baby to give a spoon. It depends on the level of development and on the curiosity of the child himself. Some children grab a spoon already at the age of six months, although they still can’t really hold it, others refuse cutlery until they are 2 years old. There are also babies who begin to eat on their own only at 3-4 years old.

However, there is no need to delay learning. The sooner the child begins to eat without the help of adults, the easier it will be for the mother. In addition, these skills will be very useful in kindergarten.

Experts advise teaching a child to hold a spoon from the age of 9-10 months. In this case, by the age of 1.5, he will be able to confidently wield cutlery.

Watch the baby, make sure the baby is "ripe" for a spoon and a cup. Only if he is ready, you can start training. If he is already interested in food, takes pieces of food and pulls them into his mouth, tries to grab a spoon from his mother's hands - he is ripe to eat on his own. Of course, mom will feed faster, and at first the baby will scatter food all over the kitchen. However, all parents will still have to go through this stage. Therefore, it is better not to miss the moment.

Instructions for parents who want to teach a child to eat with a spoon

When the baby begins to reach for the spoon, he is ready to try to eat on his own. If you do everything right, in a few months the child will learn how to use cutlery. No matter how precious your time is to you, no matter how much you want to keep the kitchen clean - do not miss the moment! If the baby requires a spoon - give him a spoon. And then - follow the instructions.

• Stock up on patience. The hands of a one-year-old baby have not yet grown strong. At first, it will be very difficult for him to hold the spoon, and he will miss her mouth. The training will take from 1 to 6 months;
• Train in different places. A great way to teach a child something is to turn the process into an educational game. Invite your little one to feed the plastic bunnies with sand with a spatula when he plays in the playground. So he will improve coordination of movements, which will come in handy later in a real kitchen;
• Don't leave your baby alone with a full plate- He may choke or become naughty due to the fact that he is unable to eat. In addition, at first, the child will still be able to bring no more than 3-4 spoons to his mouth. Then he will get tired, and you will have to help him;
• Choose the right food. The consistency of food should be such that the child can scoop it up with a spoon and bring it to his mouth. The baby will spill the soup, and take the pieces of food with his hands. Therefore, opt for thick porridge, mashed potatoes or cottage cheese. Do not immediately put a full plate in front of the child, but rather put food in it a little bit;
• Don't forget the fork. Alternate cutlery so that the baby develops fine motor skills faster. At breakfast, did the child try to pick up porridge with a spoon? For lunch, invite him to eat fish meatballs with a safety fork;
• Include all household members in learning. If you teach the little one to use cutlery, and the grandmother continues to feed him with a spoon, the process will be delayed. The baby will not understand why he should try to do something himself if there are adults for this. Explain your teaching principles to all family members and ask them to follow them as well;
• Follow the schedule. Feed your baby exactly at the same time every day, constantly reinforcing the acquired skills. So you can develop a habit in your baby. In addition, eating on a schedule improves digestion;
• Avoid coercion. In the process of learning, the child will sometimes be capricious and refuse to eat on his own. If this happens, feed him yourself, and postpone training until the next meal. When a child is not in a good mood, it will still not work to teach him something;
• Dine with the whole family. It will be easier for the kid to master the spoon if he sees how other people are using it. He involuntarily begins to imitate them. For the same reason, in kindergartens, kids quickly learn to eat, dress and go to the potty on their own;
• Make up games to stir up the interest of the little one in learning. You can buy him a plate with a funny picture on the bottom and offer to eat porridge to see the surprise;
• Start training with your child's favorite food and only on an empty stomach. The kid will not want to make an effort to eat something tasteless, especially in the absence of appetite;
• Praise the child even for small gains. To please his mother again, he will try his best;
• Keep the kitchen cozy. Buy colored dishes for the child, lay a beautiful tablecloth on the table, decorate the dish. Little things like that boost your mood and improve your appetite.

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To make it easier for parents to teach their child to self-feed, experts have developed detailed instructions:

1. Lay an oilcloth on the table, and put on a bib for the child.
2. Scoop a spoonful of porridge from a child's plate and eat, smacking your lips with pleasure and pretending to be delighted.
3. Give the spoon to the little one. Until he can hold it, hold his hand with your hand, help scoop up food and bring it to your mouth. Help until the child can hold the appliance on their own.
4. When the baby's arms get stronger, teach him how to hold the spoon correctly - not in a fist, but with your fingers.
5. When giving a child a spoon, take another one yourself. While the child is learning to eat on his own, help him with another spoon. That is, one spoon - to him, one - to you.

At first, the baby will simply play with a spoon - stir the porridge in a bowl, smear it over the face and table. Give him time to get used to the cutlery. If you are tired of the fact that the child constantly turns over the dishes, put a plate with a suction cup on the table.

In the same way, you can teach a toddler to use a fork and a non-spill cup (learning to drink from a mug). Start with small portions, making sure the child is interested, and never show your indignation at soiled clothes and furniture.

Cutlery to help the baby

For a child, you need to pick up special dishes and cutlery. The main requirements are safety and a bright design that will stimulate the toddler's interest in learning. To set the table, parents will need:

• Plate made of food-grade heat-resistant plastic. It should be bright, preferably with the image of the characters of your child's favorite cartoons. To see them, the little one will quickly eat all the porridge. It’s good if the plate has a suction cup for attaching to the countertop and an inclined bottom - it’s convenient to scoop up food from it;
• Spill-proof cup made of non-toxic materials. It is recommended to choose a model with two handles - it is more convenient to hold such a little one. Make sure that the cup has a silicone or soft plastic spout without burrs, otherwise the baby risks scratching the gums. An additional advantage is the presence of a rubber stand, which gives the dishes stability;
• Anatomically shaped spoon made of safe plastic. So that it does not fall out of the child's palm, it should have a rounded non-slip handle;
• Curved fork made of non-toxic plastic. Choose a product with rounded teeth so that the child does not get hurt;
• Comfortable baby chair. The one that comes with the table will not fit. The child should sit at the same table with adults to watch how they eat and imitate them;
• Waterproof bib. Many children resist feeding and tear off their bibs. Therefore, it is better to choose a colored bib with cartoon characters. It is good if it is made of soft and flexible plastic, and the bottom edge of the product is slightly bent up - so all the food will remain in the bib and will not stain clothes.

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What should I do if my child refuses to eat on his own?

Children are different. Many reach for the spoon, perceiving it as another toy. There are those who flatly refuse to pick up cutlery. In any case, you can not force the baby to eat himself. Parental pressure will lead to the fact that the baby will form a negative attitude towards food intake.

If the child is already a year old, and he still refuses to take a spoon, try to go for a trick:

1. Feed the baby yourself, let the baby relax, and try again after a couple of days.
2. Ask the baby's brothers or sisters to show him how they skillfully wield spoons.
3. Organize a children's party - in the company of friends, the child will be able to work out skills.

Although coercion is unacceptable, it is also not worth putting off learning to feed yourself for a long time. This skill is important for the overall development of the child and for his social adaptation.

A small child will not be able to behave at the table like an aristocrat. However, parents can teach him to eat carefully and follow the rules of hygiene. Just follow the following conditions:

• Teach your child by example how to hold a spoon and fork as it is, drink from a cup, wipe yourself with a napkin;
• Wash your hands before eating- for yourself and your baby. This should become his habit;
• Follow the diet. Eat only in the kitchen and at certain times. This is important for the appetite and strong nervous system of the child;
• Eat in a relaxed environment. Do not let your baby watch cartoons, indulge and be distracted at lunch;
• Repeat rituals: mother washes the child's hands, puts him on a chair, ties a bib, puts a plate of food on the table. It is important to explain all actions so that the baby understands their meaning (the importance of rituals);
• Decorate the table and dishes- it stimulates the appetite. Lay a fresh tablecloth on the table, put a napkin holder, beautifully lay out dishes on plates;
• Gather at the same table with the whole family. Make lunches and dinners with loved ones your family tradition. Sit down at the table in a good mood, do not rush while eating and chew all the pieces thoroughly. So you can enjoy the taste of dishes and help your digestion;
• Do not pick up food that has fallen on the floor. Teach your child not to pick up food from the floor. What has fallen may go into a dog's or cat's bowl, but not into a man's plate;
• Gradually give your child new cutlery and utensils. When the baby is only 1 year old, plates and non-spill cups are enough for him. However, by the age of 2, he already needs his own fork, a teaspoon and a tablespoon, a mug, like in adults;
• Follow the rules and rules of etiquette. Teach your baby to be neat at the table, to wipe himself with napkins when he gets dirty. Reprimand your child if he rocks in his chair, plays with his food, rests his elbows on the table, or takes something from someone else's plate. Let the whole family follow the rules of good manners - and for your son or daughter they will become natural.

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Mistakes of parents, or how not to teach a child to eat with a spoon

Teaching a baby to eat on his own is difficult, and at first many parents make mistakes. Use the experience of other moms and dads - and you will significantly speed up and facilitate the educational process.

1. Do not rush the child when he eats. Phrases like "chew fast, I have to do the dishes" should be out of your vocabulary. It is important to chew food thoroughly so that it is well digested, and this takes time. In addition, the meal itself is a great opportunity for mom to communicate with the baby, to give him her care.
2. Don't stop learning. If you have begun to teach your child to use a spoon, continue to bend your line. Do not give in to laziness, do not look for excuses. Explain to all family members that from now on the baby will eat without their help.
3. Do not force the child to take a spoon. If he is full, sick or just naughty, leave the baby alone. You can always reschedule a lesson on independence.
4. Do not scold the baby for getting dirty with food, even if he indulged. These are temporary difficulties, because soon the baby will learn to eat like adults. Your aggression will frighten the child, and he will lose all motivation for learning.
5. Don't let the TV turn on while eating. Cartoons and any programs distract the baby, but he needs concentration to learn how to use a spoon.
6. Do not put a huge portion on a plate. It is better to give the child less porridge, and then put the supplement if he asks.
7. Do not fall for childish blackmail. Toddlers try to control their parents with whims. So, a child who is already perfectly wielding a spoon and fork may declare that he will only eat a cutlet himself, but not soup. This means that the baby is not hungry, so feel free to remove the plate.
8. Do not force your child to eat the entire portion. He eats as much as his body needs to function properly. If your baby pushed the plate away, it means that he is full, even if a third of the serving remains there.
9. Don't use double standards. If on a trip you allow your child sweets for lunch instead of soup, then at home it should be exactly the same. If in your kitchen you turn a blind eye to the fact that the baby wipes his soiled face on the tablecloth, do not reprimand him at a party.

The main advice for parents whose children have begun to master the spoon is not to panic if the training is delayed. Over time, the baby will definitely learn to eat on his own.

Remember, skill comes with experience. It is best to choose the types of food that stick better to the spoon. Remember: it's okay to start learning to eat with a fork and spoon and make everything dirty!

Video: how to teach a child to eat himself

1. I STAGE. From 6 months you should always give your child a spoon. The child must be sure to touch the food with his hand, do not forbid him to do this.
2. II stage. From 7-8 months, the child will try to lower the spoon into the plate and pull it into his mouth. Dip the spoon in the food and, at first, help him try to bring the spoon into his mouth with his hand.
3. III stage. Start eating in front of the child so that he copies your behavior. Let the baby watch you, watch you chew and put the spoon in your mouth. Show your empty plate, and then start feeding the baby. Very quickly, the child begins by watching his mother eat himself.

» How to teach a child

Stop feeding your baby at a separate table. Sit him with adults at a common table. Watching how parents behave while eating, the child will begin to copy you. And soon it will stop getting dirty so actively. In addition, it will be interesting for him to plunge into the atmosphere that reigns at the adult table. And he will not play his art as long as you are interesting to him. You can help your baby eat, but try to make him more independent. If you feed him and persuade him, he will have time to spin. But if he tries to eat himself, then there will be practically no time for entertainment at the table. Your task is just to help him a little with the devices.

As soon as the child begins to spin at the table and has ceased to show interest in food, remove him from the table. While adults continue to eat, place the child in the playpen and put some toys in there. If the child is still very dirty, do not scold. Otherwise, the baby may be frightened, and feeding at the common table will cause persistent negative emotions in him.

Baby bibs do not cover the baby while feeding entirely. To make it less dirty, use old towels in which you cut a hole for the head. Wrap your child in it, leaving your hands free.

How to teach a child to be careful

Show by your own example that it is necessary to be accurate. But if the apartment is a mess, the kitchen has a mountain of unwashed dishes, and mom and dad walk around the house in a sloppy look, then at least tell the child about cleanliness and order, at least not, he will still copy the habits and behavior of his parents. Therefore, first of all, change yourself, and then teach child to neatness and cleanliness.

Every day, clean and wash the dishes, put things in their place, behave properly while eating. Then the child, looking at you, will definitely repeat all your actions. And this means that the problem of scattered toys, litter, and clothes lying around will be solved, and the behavior of the baby at the table will become exemplary.

Turn such a boring task as cleaning toys into an exciting and fun game. Then the child will be happy to put things in order. Get some colored boxes. Let the baby independently "settle" certain toys in his "house". For example, dolls can "live" in a blue box, cars and other equipment - in green, soft toys - in yellow, a designer - in red, and so on. Then turn on the music and arrange a competition, who will be the first to remove the toys - a child or mom (dad). If there are two or more children, arrange a competition between them. Don't forget to praise the winner.

Get creative with the process. When removing toys, teach your baby to count. First up to five, then up to ten, and so on. Remember or learn the names of geometric shapes, collecting cubes, balls, and any other toys. After all, all of them, one way or another, consist of circles, squares, rhombuses, ovals and rectangles.

Keep in mind, the child often does not clean up just because he does not know where to start cleaning. Help him with advice, and sometimes even action. For example, suggest that the baby first fold soft toys, then dolls and their accessories, then proceed to books and magazines. And at the end, let them throw candy wrappers, bits, bones and other garbage into the garbage can. Rest assured, he will clean everything quickly and efficiently. Don't forget to reward your child.

Remember, it will take a lot of effort, patience and time before you get your child to want to clean. That is why the question of how to teach accuracy must be raised when he is three years old, and not when he has become an adult and independent person.

2008-11-13 09:54:23

One year and two months? - too early for accuracy. One and a half, and even then it’s not a fact that you won’t have to wash everything around. You can only accentuate each time, cleaning up after him (approximately ) in this spirit)

2008-11-17 08:30:45

Monserrat, LOvik, you should be glad that SAM eats. Many children do not eat before kindergarten, and some are fed before school, only to eat (this, of course, is an excess, but sometimes it happens).

2008-11-18 07:55:20

LOvik, well, until 1.5 years old, mine also ate itself and dirty. It needs to be endured and I would not focus on that. what is dirty, otherwise you will inadvertently beat off the desire to eat on your own now my daughter is 1 year and 10 months old - she eats much cleaner and neater than before. Everything will come gradually - on the contrary, praise that he eats on his own. ” Added later Many children do not eat before kindergarten, and some are fed before school, only to eat (this, of course, is an excess, but sometimes it happens). Oh yes, I know such cases.

2008-11-19 03:44:57

Only praise and support And try to give food for self-use, the least dangerous in terms of cleaning and washing. When it was warm, my son ate only in panties, and then - he wiped it with wet wipes - and everything was in order. And at the table I always had cloth napkins, soft, from unused gauze diapers turned out

2008-11-22 08:00:25

You know, it's too early, I think at this age to want the child to eat carefully, what he already eats and that is a great success. Until the age of two, we were only fed by my mother. What to wish: patience and only patience, everything will be, but not immediately.

2008-11-24 09:03:02

I understand, of course, that such a small child will not be able to eat everything very neatly. But after all, TEACHING and explaining is somehow necessary, otherwise how will he learn himself? So I don’t know how to approach this. Categorically - to take away food if he indulges? Or let you dig into food with your hands, scatter food?

2008-11-28 02:05:39

LOvik, indulging and eating neat are different things. If he indulges - of course, calmly pick up food. I did just that - so we don't have pampering like throwing food around. And in general, we have no games at the table, no distractions - my daughter knows that we only eat here. But accuracy is when food spills out of their spoons, etc. It's not worth focusing on this at that age, in my opinion.

2008-11-28 10:36:23

But accuracy is when food spills out of their spoons. Even I thought, on the contrary, carefully - this is if nothing is spilled / does not wake up anywhere

2008-12-03 11:04:43

LOvik, that's exactly what I wanted to say. I just didn't miss it.

2008-12-06 01:28:14

Well, we also eat. I just sit her naked at the table, and after eating, I throw her in the bath under the shower. Just try to wipe the spilled food in time while eating around the child, so that he would learn to eat cleanly. Gradually, he will try to eat more carefully. My Margonya is now trying not to wake up, and if she poured or scattered something on the table, she pokes her finger at me and is loudly indignant until she wipes it off. Sometimes she tries to wipe herself after herself

2008-12-06 07:34:37

Mom came to visit yesterday. Usually my children eat well when I'm not the one feeding. I sent my grandmother to feed Lesha. She was SO swearing at me that the child eats carelessly, climbs into the plate with a spoon, dunks the bread. She says that it is necessary to teach right away that all children eat normally, that they should not be allowed to eat like that.

2008-12-08 04:50:09

that all children eat normally, that they should not be allowed to eat like that. You should have asked your mother how you ate at that age.

2008-12-09 09:13:34

You should have asked your mother how you ate at that age. Only mothers usually do not remember. And they have the impression that we were all so neat from the cradle, but our children.

2008-12-17 10:17:15

Neatness at the table at this age is the mother's concern, the child has other tasks - to learn to eat on his own. Roughly speaking, the child is piggy - mom cleans up, saying how nice it is to eat clean. If games begin for food, feeding stops. We have this reinforced concrete rule learned at a very early age. And if the baby still cannot properly convey a spoon to his mouth, then this is quite understandable and forgivable. The child spilled, the mother wiped it off - we continue to eat clean.

2008-12-19 02:53:24

Neatness at the table at this age is the mother's concern, the child has other tasks - to learn to eat on his own. Roughly speaking, the child is piggy - mom cleans up, saying how nice it is to eat clean. If games begin for food, feeding stops. We have this reinforced concrete rule learned at a very early age. And if the baby still cannot properly convey a spoon to his mouth, then this is quite understandable and forgivable. The child spilled, my mother wiped it off - we eat further clean. Everything is so Even there is nothing to add.

2008-12-22 05:48:07

LOvik, so the problem is not in accuracy, but in your relationship with your mother. Believe me, even if you do the impossible, and your child suddenly learns to eat carefully, then mom will find something else that Lesha still doesn’t know how. For example, go to the potty, speak clearly, etc.

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Surely you dreamed of the day when your child will learn to hold a spoon on his own. That day has come, and you realized that independence brings with it new problems. Now the baby enthusiastically smears the puree over himself and all surrounding objects. And your greatest desire is the desire to teach child to neatness.

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at a separate table. Plant it with

at the common table. Watching how they behave while eating

The child will copy you. And soon it will stop getting dirty so actively. In addition, it will be interesting for him to plunge into the atmosphere that reigns at the adult table. And he won't

in his art as long as he is interested in you. You can help your baby eat, but try to make him more independent. If you feed him and persuade him, he will have time to spin. But if he tries to eat himself, then

there will be practically no left for entertainment at the table. Your task is just to help him a little with the devices.

As soon as the child begins to spin at the table and has ceased to show interest in food, remove him from the table. While adults continue to eat, place

and put some toys in there. If the child is still very dirty, do not scold. Otherwise

may be frightened, and feeding at a common table will cause persistent negative emotions in him.

In order to prevent the baby from turning over the plates, purchase special dishes with suction cups. Even if the child starts to misbehave at the table and tries to throw all the dishes on the floor, he is unlikely to be able to do it just as easily. And besides, constantly monitor the baby. And if he manages to tear off the plate, you will have time to intercept it.

Baby bibs do not cover the baby during

entirely. To make it less dirty, use old towels in which you cut a hole for the head. Wrap your child in it, leaving your hands free.

Do not combine feeding with entertainment. Do not turn on the TV, do not sing songs while your child is fighting with a spoon - firstly, in this way you distract him from the process of eating, and secondly, you develop a not very good habit. Moreover, having cheered up, the baby will begin to wave the spoon even more actively.

How to teach your child to eat carefully

How to teach a child to eat independently and carefully from a year - instructions for parents

Each baby grows up in its own way and in its own time. It seems that just yesterday he did not let go of the bottle from his palms, but today he is already deftly wielding a spoon, and does not even spill a drop. Of course, for every mother, this stage is important and difficult.

And in order for it to pass with “less losses”, you need to remember the main points of the lessons on independent eating.

• How to teach a child to eat by himself - instructions
• Rules for neatness and safety at the table
• The main mistakes of parents

When can a child eat with a spoon on their own?

It is difficult to clearly determine the age when the baby is ready to take a spoon in his own hands. One demandingly grabs a spoon already at 6 months, the other refuses to take it at 2 years. Sometimes training is delayed and up to 3-4 years - everything is individual.

Of course, you should not delay learning - the sooner the baby starts to eat on its own, the easier it will be for the mother, and the easier it will be for the child himself in kindergarten.

Make sure the baby is "ripe" for spoon and cup. Only if he is ready, you can start training.

Focus on your child's behavior. If the child already grabs pieces of food and pulls them into his mouth, takes the spoon from his mother and tries to put it in his mouth, is interested in food in general and has a good appetite - do not miss the moment! Yes, mom will feed faster, and there is no desire to clean the kitchen 3-4 times a day, but it is better to go through this stage right away (you still have to go through it, but then it will be more difficult).

How to teach a child to eat on his own - we act according to the instructions!

No matter how precious your time is to you, no matter how much you want to keep the kitchen clean - do not miss the moment!

If the baby requires a spoon - give him a spoon. And then - follow the instructions.

• Be patient - the process will be difficult. Moscow was not built right away, and a filled spoon never gets into the baby's mouth the first time - it will take from a month to six months to study.
• Train not only in the kitchen. You can also learn in the sandbox: mastering the game with a spatula, the baby quickly learns to wield with a spoon. Feed the plastic rabbits with sand, this game will help you to coordinate your movements in the kitchen.
• Do not leave a child with a full plate alone. Firstly, it is dangerous (the child may choke), secondly, the baby will definitely become capricious from impotence or fatigue, and thirdly, he still needs to be fed, even if he brings 3-4 spoons to his mouth himself.
• To start learning, choose this food, which in consistency will be convenient for scooping and “transportation” into the mouth. Of course, the soup will not work - the baby will simply remain hungry. But cottage cheese, mashed potatoes or porridge - that's it. And do not impose the entire portion at once - a little bit, gradually placing it on the plate as it is empty. Do not put food in pieces either, because you can take it with your hands.
• Train with a spoon and a fork. Naturally, to a safe fork. As a rule, it is easier for kids to cope with forks. But in this case, do not forget to change the contents of the plate (you can’t put porridge on a fork).
• If you started the process and decided to bring it to the end - that is, to teach the child to eat on his own - then explain to other family members that they, too, must adhere to your teaching principles. It is wrong when a mother teaches a baby to eat on her own, and a grandmother fundamentally (albeit with love) feeds him with a spoon.
• Feed your child on a schedule and practice daily.
• If the child is naughty and refuses to eat on his own, do not torture him - feed from a spoon, postpone training for the evening (morning).
• Dine with the whole family. You should not feed the baby separately. The "collective" rule always works. That is why in kindergarten, children quickly learn to eat, dress and go to the potty on their own - this rule works. If you eat with the whole family at the same table, the child will quickly begin to imitate you.
• Create fun games so that the baby was motivated to eat independently.
• Start self-feeding only with your baby's favorite food, and only when he is hungry.. Remember that he gets tired of working with a spoon, and feed the baby yourself when he starts to get nervous.
• Be sure to praise your child for their efforts. Even the smallest ones. The kid will be pleased to please you again and again.
• Create an environment for your child that encourages food. Choose beautiful dishes, lay a beautiful tablecloth, decorate the dish.

Instructions for independent eating - where to start?

1. We cover the table with a beautiful oilcloth and tie a bib to the baby.
2. We take a little porridge from his plate and defiantly "with relish" eat it. Do not forget to portray delight so that the child is interested.
3. Next, we hand the spoon to the crumbs. If you can’t hold the spoon, we help. You need to hold the spoon in his palm with your hand, scoop the porridge from the plate and bring it to your mouth.
4. Help until the child can hold the device on their own.
5. It's not scary if at first the child just kneads the porridge in a bowl with a spoon and smears it over the face, table, etc. Give the child freedom - let him get used to it. You can put a plate with a suction cup if the child constantly turns it over.
6. While the child is learning to eat on his own, help him with another spoon. That is, one spoon - to him, one - to you.
7. Put the spoon into your baby's hand correctly. It is wrong to hold it in your fist - teach the baby to hold the spoon with your fingers so that it is convenient to carry it to your mouth.

We use the same principle accustoming a child to a non-spill cup, fork, etc.. We start with a small portion, only if the baby is interested and without tantrums about soiled sofas, clothes and carpets.

How to interest the baby - the necessary purchases to stimulate independence

• Plate. We choose it from safe, food-grade heat-resistant plastic. Preferably, those companies that you can trust. The color palette should be bright, that the baby would happily dig out his favorite cartoon characters under the porridge. We recommend choosing a plate with an inclined bottom - for easy scooping of food, sufficient depth and with a suction cup for the table.
• Non-spill cup. It is also selected exclusively from safe materials. It is better to take a cup with 2 handles so that it is convenient for the baby to hold it. The nose should be silicone or soft plastic (no burrs!) so as not to injure the gums. It is good if the cup has a rubber stand for stability.
• A spoon. It should be made of safe plastic, anatomically shaped, with a rounded and non-slip handle.
• Fork. Also made of safe plastic, curved shape with rounded teeth.
• Don't forget a comfortable chair. Not stand-alone and with its own table, but such that the baby sits at a common table with the whole family.
• You should also buy waterproof bibs- preferably, bright, with cartoon characters, so that the child does not resist when putting on (alas, many kids who perceive feeding as an execution, bibs are torn off immediately after putting on). It is better if the bibs are made of soft and flexible plastic with a slightly curved bottom edge.

What you need to feed a baby up to a year - a list of all the necessary supplies for feeding a baby

The child refuses to eat on his own - what to do?

If your child stubbornly refuses to take a spoon, do not panic and do not insist - everything has its time. Your perseverance will only lead to the formation of a negative attitude towards the process of eating in the child.

• Leave the baby alone and try again in a few days.
• If possible, call on the help of brothers / sisters or friends of the baby(neighborhood kids).
• Organized children's party can help you improve your skills.

Of course, there is no need to relax: this skill is extremely important, and you should not put off learning for a long time.

We teach a child from a year to eat carefully - the basic rules of accuracy and safety at the table

It is clear that you should not expect sophistication and aristocracy from a child during training.

But if you want to teach him to eat carefully, then food safety and culture rules must be in place from the outset and at all times.

• Leading by example is the most important. Teach your child by example - how to hold a spoon, how to eat, how to use a napkin, etc.
• Wash your hands before eating. This should become a habit.
• Do not eat in the room - only in the kitchen(dining room) at a common table and strictly at a certain time. The diet is extremely important for the health of the baby, his appetite and the calm of his nervous system.
• No TV shows during lunch. Cartoons can wait! Active games - too. During lunch, it is unacceptable to be distracted, indulge, laugh, act outrageously.
• beneficial rituals. Teach your baby to them from the very beginning: first, hands washed with fragrant soap, then mom puts the baby on a high chair, puts on a bib, arranges dishes on the table, lays out napkins, puts a plate of porridge. And, of course, my mother accompanies all these actions with comments, songs and affectionate explanations.
• Be sure to decorate the table. From the cradle, we teach the child that it is necessary to eat not only tasty, but also beautiful. Serving and decorating dishes is one of the secrets to increase appetite and mood. A beautiful tablecloth, napkins in a napkin holder, bread in a basket, a beautifully served dish.
• Good mood. It is not good to sit down at the table angry, angry, capricious. Dinner should be held in the family circle, as a good tradition.
• We do not pick up food that has fallen. What fell - the dog. Or a cat. But not back to the plate.
• As you grow up and get used to independence, expand the set of those appliances and utensils what you are using. If at 10-12 months a plate and a non-spill cup are enough, then by the age of 2 the baby should already have a fork, a plate for dessert, soup and a second, an ordinary cup (not a drinker), a tea and soup spoon, etc. .
• Accuracy. Teach your baby to sit at a clean table, eat neatly, use a napkin, don’t mess with food, don’t rock in a chair, sit straight and remove your elbows from the table, don’t climb with a spoon into someone else’s plate.

How not to teach a child to eat - the main taboos for parents

Starting lessons on independence, parents sometimes make a lot of mistakes.

Avoid them and the process will go smoother, easier and faster!

• Do not hurry. Do not rush the child - “eat faster”, “I still have to wash the dishes” and other phrases. Firstly, eating fast is harmful, and secondly, the process of eating is also communication with your mother.
• Stay on course. If you started to accustom to a spoon / cup - and continue. Don't let yourself get thrown off course by lack of time, laziness, etc. This applies to all family members.
• Do not force the child to take a spoon, if he does not want to take it, does not want to eat, is sick.
• Do not swear if the baby is too dirty, smeared porridge all around, including the dog, and the new T-shirt is stained so that it cannot be washed. It's temporary, you have to go through it. Lay an oilcloth, remove the carpet from the floor, put on clothes that you don’t mind getting dirty with juices and soup. But in no case do not show your irritation to the baby - he may get scared, and the learning process will stall.
• Don't turn on the TV during lunch. Cartoons and programs distract from the process on which the child should fully concentrate.
• Do not impose on the baby a portion that will frighten him with its volume. Put in a little. It is better to put the supplement when the child asks.
• Do not indulge whims. Of course, it is better to start with food that the baby loves, but later do not succumb to "blackmail". If a kid who has already learned how to work with a spoon refuses porridge and demands “dessert” in exchange for eating himself, just remove the plate - he is not hungry.
• Do not force the baby to eat everything completely. Despite the established age “norms”, every child knows when he has had enough. Overeating does nothing good.
• Don't change your diet. As you eat at home, so eat at a party, a trip, with your grandmother, etc. If you are allowed to eat at a party when you have to, and what you have to, then why should it be different at home? If at home “elbows on the table” and a mouth wiped on the tablecloth is the norm, then why can’t it be also at a party? Be consistent in your demands.

Well, and most importantly - don't panic if the process drags on. Sooner or later, the baby will still master this complex cutlery.

It can not be in any other way.

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Know how to eat slowly and carefully

Teddy bear chewed bread -

He dropped bread crumbs.

Spoke with a full mouth

What? Nobody could understand.

Then he took up the compote -

The table was doused with his stomach!

Everyone laughs loudly at him,

Embarrassed the teddy bear:

- You do not know? At the table

You have to eat with your mouth closed

Don't rush, don't talk

Do not litter crumbs on the floor.

After getting up from the table

In a fur coat as clean as it was.

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